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I don't reply or post much anymore but couldn't ignore this.

1. Birth of my baby.

2. Meeting my favourite sports star 4 times (I won't say who as this makes me easily identifiable).

3. My best friend's wedding.

4. Buying my first home.

5. Graduating uni and getting my first big girl job.

I will say (despite the hell it put us through for some time) meeting my OH and the life we have built and continue to build together is also full of happy memories. We are now in a position where we live mostly normal lives, he is awaiting starting his course, he has probation monthly down from weekly (he only started sessions in January after sentencingin December 2023), he only has Internet restrictions. We are even going on holiday with our little one in June, we're taking advantage of my MAT leave and have booked a cheaper holiday (we can't usually get a cheap deal due to me working in a school).

There ARE things to be happy about and we should not feel guilty about the happiness involving our people.

Xxx

Like you Life I could not ignore this - for a long time it has felt like I could not/should not be happy. Things I am thankful for

1. My 3 beautiful young men

2. seeing my son ( the reason we are here) begin to realise there is a life ahead that does not have to be defined by his online behaviour

3. obtaining a first class honours degree when I was 50 and becoming a teacher.

4. Every new day especially when the sun is shining.

There is a long, uncertain road ahead but with the support from this forum I know we will get there.

love and strength to all you fabulous ladies xx

What a great idea and a reminder that no matter how dark this journey gets for us, there has been happier times and there will be more.My best friend told me the other day to remember that every single day that goes by, becomes history the next day. it dont help the journey we on, but every single day we are becoming closer to the end of all this and one day we will look at this and think wow, the days i just wanted to give up or full of rage and tears and couldnt imagine going on another day....i got through them.



So my 5 happy memories are........

1. My 3 beautiful children being born xx

2. Meeting my partner (although we are on this journey because of him, hes stuck by me through the worst times of my life and i do believe hes told me all there is too it. its not been an easy decision to stand by him but there is still some trust and just want to return to our "new normal life". The love hasnt changed, just the trust has but we will build that up once this is done and hes back home

3. Seeing my best friend become a mum after being told she couldnt have children so she adopted beautitful twins

4. Taking my daughter to see her first ever west end musical and her first ever trip to London (her face was something ill never forget)

5. Being told we have been accepted for our new home (although after nearly a year , we are stiill not in the house due to issues with the house but it gives me a good thought that when my partner is home and we do move in, there is a fresh start)

My memories can be divided into before the knock and after. We have separated so many memories feel tainted. Need to work on creating new ones.

Hi smile through tears, reading this post really reminded me to be present and focus on the good times. sometimes I find myself in a drift for hours thinking about all this rubbish that has happened. I can't think of any memories currently but I will appreciate everything good once this hell is over x

This is such a lovely post and something I have been thinking about today. All my memories currently seem to be tainted, but they are still happy memories and I am sure there will be nany more in the future. So here goes..here are my 5:

1) my beautiful 3 boys being born (and growing into the finest young men who have reisilance beyond their years)

2) a wonderful holiday when we were in our 20s when I got so drunk in the sun, I was like a pinball bouncing off beautiful Mediterranean whitewashed houses to make it back to the hotel.. and rhe pure laughter the next day about it!

3) the happiness I feel every year when the beautiful cherry tree in my garden bursts into blossom almost overnight.

4) the adrenaline of going on the craziest roller coaster in Europe with my youngest son and the laughter as he looked at my face (and heard my screams!)

5) buying my first house and eating fish and chips sitting on packing boxes on the first night with friends who had helped us move.

I love this thread, it's made me realise how many happy memories I have. As well as all the big life events some of my happy memories are;

*My mums 80th birthday weekend

* My first attendance at a pop festival

* Completion of the extension on our house after what felt like years of chaos

* A family holiday

* Buying my first car.

This is such a lovely thread. Even though we are going through this nightmare, the past week I've been so happy (even at work lol) and it was such a privilege to be present when my granddaughter came into the world. My daughter has suffered with her mental health for the past couple of years, but she looks so happy now even though she's basically doing everything on her own. We (and including his family) wish that her boyfriend would step up and take responsibility. Hopefully he will in time and before it's not too late x

I'm with Anxious Girl. All my memories of the last 20+ years are now sullied due to my OH's years and years of indecent activity that's come to light, even from the early days when I invited him to come and live in my home.

Smile x

What a beautiful uplifting post x

Dawn congratulations to you on the birth of your beautiful baby granddaughter, glad they are doing well xx

My happy memories

1) My amazing 3 young adults

2) having some beautiful long weekend breaks I have to say Venice has to be my favourite

3) passing my driving test some years ago

4) Seeing my 3 dressed and ready when they were attending there Proms

Last but by no means meeting my very dear friend Smile and of course so many of you amazing women here x