Family and Friends Forum

Welcome to the Family and Friends Forum.

We’ve spoken to hundreds of people who have been affected by someone close to them viewing sexual images of children online. Everyone is different but we know that many family members are deeply shocked and distressed by their family member’s behaviour, their lives maybe turned upside down, and they may feel isolated and alone. Not only do we hope this forum will be a valuable source of information, we want it to reduce people’s sense of isolation and to give them a sense of hope for the future.

Please note that this is an open forum and anyone can read posts. However, if you want to post a message – and we hope you do – you will need to register. Please be aware that new users’ first posts will not appear on the forum until they have been moderated. After that, new users’ posts will appear straight away. This helps us ensure that the forum is a safe and supportive environment for everyone.

You can learn more on how to use the forum here and our forum agreement is here.

We know that some forum users are going through a lot of trauma and stress. Please be aware that some people will find certain posts upsetting.

If you need support, please contact our confidential Stop It Now! helpline.

  • Call 0808 1000 900: Monday to Thursday 9am to 9pm, Friday 9am to 5pm
  • Visit to send us a secure message or use our live chat

You can also find more support and information on our website

Category Topics Last activity

Discussion and support

For posts about general topics, that are directly aimed at seeking mutual support, or for posts that don’t fit into other categories.


RE: Christmas
by Smile through tears on Wed December 1, 2021 2:31pm

The family and children

For posts about anything to do with families, children and children’s services.


RE: How often do you hear or see the health visitor?
by Dawn14 on Wed December 1, 2021 1:34pm

The legal process

For posts about the legal process and criminal justice system, including the police, courts, solicitors, and post-sentencing.


RE: Accidental download
by minzaal on Tue November 30, 2021 7:27am

The media and telling others

For posts about how and what to share with family, friends and professionals, or about the press, social media and public exposure.


RE: How do the media know?
by Sarah ?? on Tue November 30, 2021 8:24pm

Understanding why

For posts about your loved ones behaviour, and trying to understand why.


RE: Confused and sad
by dino2828 on Fri November 26, 2021 6:30pm

LFF Posts


RE: Youth offending
by Alison20 on Wed October 27, 2021 12:43am