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Should I stay or leave? by Numbsam on Fri October 9, 2026 3:24pm	4	by Trist Thu October 15, 2026 8:52pm
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Partner forensic assessment- still doesn't mention the victims by majestictopaz on Fri October 15, 2021 1:03pm	13	by JoLo47 Mon October 12, 2026 8:36am
New Research by lftm on Thu June 25, 2026 8:34pm	5	by JoLo47 Mon October 12, 2026 8:18am
Its been 14 months by How do we get through this? on Thu October 8, 2026 3:58pm	1	by JoLo47 Thu October 8, 2026 11:37pm
Still numb after 19 months. by JoLo47 on Thu September 24, 2026 8:25am	2	by JoLo47 Fri September 25, 2026 6:20pm
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