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I feel for you I really do. I'm in a similar situation with ss, they have been absolutely awful. My situation is a bit different as I have been allowed to supervise since the arrest in August 2023. We had assessments done during PLO, my OH is low risk and I'm protective. We went to our conference review with having it in writing that the SS recommended case closure. The conference chair overruled the decision. So it seems management are the ones pulling the strings. My OH's probation officer has been awful aswell, constantly labelling my OH as high risk. I had a conversation with him last year and all it was, was to confirm my OH is high risk- really didn't see the point of the conversation! Despite my OH's low risk, the CPP is continuing for another six months, having to cope with monthly core group meetings again, he isnt allowed to stay at the house and put up with flipping unnanounced visits. It really isn't fair xx

That's the problem, they are not letting us move on. They are now saying they need to look at hypothetical risk which is just ridiculous x

I've met with probation and visor (police) on a few occasions. His first probation officer was a bit of a nightmare and recommended contact in the community if I was to solely supervise. Fortunately the sw went against that recommendation and allowed me to supervise anywhere.
His last probation officer was very supportive, she wanted us to make the move of having him back home whilst he was still under probation to give a more personal report to ss rather than just a general statement from an officer who picks up his file.
Like you I was very nervous but try to go in with an open mind. Perhaps write down a few questions for them about how they view his risk to your son, is this different to his general risk to children? Is your support and relationship with your husband a positive factor in their professional opinion? Do they have any suggestions for strengthening his rehabilitation (jobs if appropriate, any support groups that he isn't already a part of etc)? Anything that shows you want to work as a team with them and that you understand that they have a job to do and risk assessments form a large part of that xxx

I've had an email off my employer today saying they are not going to give me time off to attend core group meetings or anything anymore. I've sent it off to SS but they will twist it and use it against me somehow. Nearly 16 months my daughter has been on a CPP and even my employer is fed up with it now x