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My husband was already aware he's considered high risk to children but today he's been told he's low risk to general public but out of nowhere he's medium risk to me???
what is the exact reason for this as I hear a lot about manipulation but he's not manipulated me at any point, so what evidence does this give to risk him at this??
he is due a review of risk so hoping it drops soon but he's never been told before he's a risk to me?
is this normal?
feels to me like we'll never be a family again, must be an end
what is the exact reason for this as I hear a lot about manipulation but he's not manipulated me at any point, so what evidence does this give to risk him at this??
he is due a review of risk so hoping it drops soon but he's never been told before he's a risk to me?
is this normal?
feels to me like we'll never be a family again, must be an end
Is this from the OASys risk assessment? If so, it's well known to be a flawed system, MoJ and probation ombudsman are well aware of its limitations and it's because a probation officer can write whatever they want and it gets treated as fact. It's not right xx
Yes I believe so, not even my husband has ever seen it in depth just the risk levels which he didn't fully know until yesterday
He's only loved me for 14 years...never come to any harm or manipulation whatsoever, hearing someone consider him a risk to me has made me feel sick to my stomach :( what is he apprently doing to do to me because i know when someone's manipulating me im rather clued up on stuff like that , I've heard it all now....hoping it drops soon to low because totally not necessary! :/ x
He's only loved me for 14 years...never come to any harm or manipulation whatsoever, hearing someone consider him a risk to me has made me feel sick to my stomach :( what is he apprently doing to do to me because i know when someone's manipulating me im rather clued up on stuff like that , I've heard it all now....hoping it drops soon to low because totally not necessary! :/ x
Is there a big age difference between you? Is there a balance of power within your relationship? Things like you being financially or emotionally dependent on him will decrease the balance of power. I know that it's difficult to read but it's so important to be able to take a step back and try to view your own situation as though someone else is going through it. To an extent you have to take the fact that you love your husband out of the equation when reading about or discussing his risk levels. What advice would you give your best friend if it was her partner that the risk assessments were about?
My partner is classed as medium risk to all children because ss wouldn't fund an independent assessment. We still managed to get him back into the family home and closed off to ss. I know sometimes I can come across as being blunt in my replies but I'm always aiming for kind but honest. I think that's more helpful than blind support. I've not seen any cases of getting a partner back into the home who is classed as high risk to children so this will need to change before you can start the process of getting him back.
You can ask about the risk level to you when you meet with probation, just listen to their reasoning without trying to argue that he isn't a risk. At least then you'll know their views on how your relationship impacts his risk level xxx
My partner is classed as medium risk to all children because ss wouldn't fund an independent assessment. We still managed to get him back into the family home and closed off to ss. I know sometimes I can come across as being blunt in my replies but I'm always aiming for kind but honest. I think that's more helpful than blind support. I've not seen any cases of getting a partner back into the home who is classed as high risk to children so this will need to change before you can start the process of getting him back.
You can ask about the risk level to you when you meet with probation, just listen to their reasoning without trying to argue that he isn't a risk. At least then you'll know their views on how your relationship impacts his risk level xxx
He's only 10 months older, paying off me and my son to have the home until he can come back, however I've made it clear I have places to go planned if anything was to ever happen, I've looked at all scenarios but everything I say the social just ignores and turns it against me? They know I'm awfully strict on the plans we have in place and they have said going home can be possible but takes a long time and 15 months it's been so far is no time at all apprently....is this normal for no matter how hard you're working for them to make it worse and worse?? This PLO is making me feel rather down when I'm doing so much hard work I stay up late lose sleep doing courses and reading up I've been 100% desiccated got my little boy.
Do the supervisors always say things like the partner could not put their child first? Is this just one of their textbook terms Or have I done something wrong, never broken a rule, all positive reviews, very in depth safety plans and going out my own way to do my own research and expand my knowledge, home is protected with CCTV all put in place by me to help deter any dangers
i coupdnt try any harder if I tried, no mother should have to read a comment like that, just makes me wonder why I can't supervise or anything when my knowledge is so good and they even say so! Everyone else just says "yes I understand the offence" and can supervise??? Who says they aren't biased this bothers me
just when she puts those comments I start thinking they'll take my baby away or am I being ridiculous haha
and I appreciate the honestly thanks xx
Do the supervisors always say things like the partner could not put their child first? Is this just one of their textbook terms Or have I done something wrong, never broken a rule, all positive reviews, very in depth safety plans and going out my own way to do my own research and expand my knowledge, home is protected with CCTV all put in place by me to help deter any dangers
i coupdnt try any harder if I tried, no mother should have to read a comment like that, just makes me wonder why I can't supervise or anything when my knowledge is so good and they even say so! Everyone else just says "yes I understand the offence" and can supervise??? Who says they aren't biased this bothers me
just when she puts those comments I start thinking they'll take my baby away or am I being ridiculous haha
and I appreciate the honestly thanks xx
He was medium risk but they out him high over comment he never said, he asked if he could join the family for a holiday if supervisors were there and they put him high like that, insane
and risk assessment with ss said we can't recommend changes right now, is this a normal outcome?? Just says waiting on psych assessment which is tomorrow if this goes bad then not sure who we go to next, not seen many experiences on here of the people doing it (marshal parsons or something)
Hope they see the good in him because it sure is there ( I don't say this to ss they'll twist it on me but we all see the good in our partners or we wouldn't stay) x
and risk assessment with ss said we can't recommend changes right now, is this a normal outcome?? Just says waiting on psych assessment which is tomorrow if this goes bad then not sure who we go to next, not seen many experiences on here of the people doing it (marshal parsons or something)
Hope they see the good in him because it sure is there ( I don't say this to ss they'll twist it on me but we all see the good in our partners or we wouldn't stay) x
Hopefully the assessment will be positive for you. In my view, people can only be marked as high risk if - they have reoffended, suffered abuse themselves as a child or had a traumatic childhood, there was a real victim in their offence and/or intent to meet a child.
The person who did my OH's assessment said that my OH constantly saying there was never intent behind behind the messages isn't minimising, it's a case of maintaining his innocence which is backed up by the police investigation- NFA- SS have constantly accused him of minimising.
She also said that the non-offending parent should be recognised as a secondary victim and the offence isn't our shame to carry.
Hope you get a positive outcome
xx
The person who did my OH's assessment said that my OH constantly saying there was never intent behind behind the messages isn't minimising, it's a case of maintaining his innocence which is backed up by the police investigation- NFA- SS have constantly accused him of minimising.
She also said that the non-offending parent should be recognised as a secondary victim and the offence isn't our shame to carry.
Hope you get a positive outcome
xx
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