World blown up
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3 days in. My husband had vigilantes come to the door, accuse him of sexually chatting and sharing photos with a 13 year old. They videod him as he admitted to all sorts of stuff. Some of it just seemed so odd- these people really get off on humiliating the people they've entrapped. He insists he admitted to stuff that wasn't true out of fear and confusion. I can't trust anything anymore.
He had our business logo on the tshirt and the vigilante video was posted on our business accounts.
I've been messaged by clients- I've had to shut down everything I worked so hard to build. I'm scared to go out incase my friends see iit and feel I've put their kids at risk.
Police took devices, he's back and I got him a hotel. I got him a phone, found him a place to live and allowed him time with our child. I've started divorce proceedings. Everything feels like it's moving a hundred miles an hour and yet every moment is an eternity.
Staying busy in this way has helped me but I can't help feel I've been too kind- I built a beautiful life for us and he wrecked it. I'm third trimester of pregnancy and just trying to stay calm for this baby. To the few people who know, I must look like superwoman, being practical. But I'm completely broken.
He has admitted he talks to everyone online, not looking for younger people but clearly not bothered either way. I've been telling him to get therapy for years for his low self esteem and I'm just so angry that he had everything and it wasn't enough. I also wonder what kind of person I am to still be kind, to listen to him cry and to mourn my marriage and my best friend. I'm trying to let him be around our son as it's all he has to live for, but I feel suffocated. And alone with this terrible secret, waiting for someone to send me this video.
He had our business logo on the tshirt and the vigilante video was posted on our business accounts.
I've been messaged by clients- I've had to shut down everything I worked so hard to build. I'm scared to go out incase my friends see iit and feel I've put their kids at risk.
Police took devices, he's back and I got him a hotel. I got him a phone, found him a place to live and allowed him time with our child. I've started divorce proceedings. Everything feels like it's moving a hundred miles an hour and yet every moment is an eternity.
Staying busy in this way has helped me but I can't help feel I've been too kind- I built a beautiful life for us and he wrecked it. I'm third trimester of pregnancy and just trying to stay calm for this baby. To the few people who know, I must look like superwoman, being practical. But I'm completely broken.
He has admitted he talks to everyone online, not looking for younger people but clearly not bothered either way. I've been telling him to get therapy for years for his low self esteem and I'm just so angry that he had everything and it wasn't enough. I also wonder what kind of person I am to still be kind, to listen to him cry and to mourn my marriage and my best friend. I'm trying to let him be around our son as it's all he has to live for, but I feel suffocated. And alone with this terrible secret, waiting for someone to send me this video.
I'm so sorry. I have no advice I am afraid but wanted to send my support to you
My heart really goes out to you having just read your post. I've no idea how you've managed to do all you've done in so a short space of time and I'm pleased staying busy has helped you but now you really need look after yourself.
If you haven't already done so you might like to consider contacting your GP and the LFF helpline for support. The fact you're pregnant should also mean your midwife can fast track you for therapy ir counselling if you think this would help.
There is nothing wrong with being kind to the person you love despite the anger, hurt and betrayal you'll be feeling. He's been a huge part of your life and if you want to continue helping and supporting him then that's great. You'll probably find you'll go through so many emotions as the days, weeks and months go past and that's ok too.
I'm in a different situation to you in that it is my son who shattered my world but the one thing I can promise you is that you won't always feel this way. Life will eventually get easier but in the meantime keep reaching out on here or pm if that's preferable.
If you haven't already done so you might like to consider contacting your GP and the LFF helpline for support. The fact you're pregnant should also mean your midwife can fast track you for therapy ir counselling if you think this would help.
There is nothing wrong with being kind to the person you love despite the anger, hurt and betrayal you'll be feeling. He's been a huge part of your life and if you want to continue helping and supporting him then that's great. You'll probably find you'll go through so many emotions as the days, weeks and months go past and that's ok too.
I'm in a different situation to you in that it is my son who shattered my world but the one thing I can promise you is that you won't always feel this way. Life will eventually get easier but in the meantime keep reaching out on here or pm if that's preferable.