anxiety and trying to be kind
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I'm really struggling right now, I've not ever told my partner that I'm done but I feel like I am.
we have 1 child together who was born 6 weeks after the knock. Don't really want to go into a long story about the effect that's had on me personally, obviously it's been quite awful.
we're getting very close to the year anniversary which means looking a bail more closely. Why do i feel so full of anxiety that the bail conditions will end, if that happens he will expect me to broach the subject with ss about him coming home and if I'm brutally honest I don't think that's what I want. The damage is done, I don't have any trust.
I find myself reading people's stories in the early hours. trying to find a similar set of events, where someone claims to have no idea why. Recently I saw one where someone at the very last minute confessed. Every day its running around my head about how upside-down my life has been turned.
who really can a person ever trust. I'm looking at my grown up children doubting them, I don't trust anyone with my baby and its heartbreaking. I just want to run away from everyone right now but just slap on the fake smile everyday.
we have 1 child together who was born 6 weeks after the knock. Don't really want to go into a long story about the effect that's had on me personally, obviously it's been quite awful.
we're getting very close to the year anniversary which means looking a bail more closely. Why do i feel so full of anxiety that the bail conditions will end, if that happens he will expect me to broach the subject with ss about him coming home and if I'm brutally honest I don't think that's what I want. The damage is done, I don't have any trust.
I find myself reading people's stories in the early hours. trying to find a similar set of events, where someone claims to have no idea why. Recently I saw one where someone at the very last minute confessed. Every day its running around my head about how upside-down my life has been turned.
who really can a person ever trust. I'm looking at my grown up children doubting them, I don't trust anyone with my baby and its heartbreaking. I just want to run away from everyone right now but just slap on the fake smile everyday.
Hi lovely,
as someone who was also pregnant at the knock and with adult children too I can absolutely relate to your post. I chose to leave the relationship and then after 2 years made the decision to give it another go. We’re now 5 years post knock and he stays here half the week with very limited unsupervised contact with our daughter.
It's a process to rebuild trust and put boundaries in place. Do you manage to find any time for yourself? I know how challenging that is. If you are able to give yourself a little bit of time I'd recommend hypnotherapy. This helped me to process the trauma, build up confidence and generally become more present in my life. Always just a message away if you need a listening ear xxx
as someone who was also pregnant at the knock and with adult children too I can absolutely relate to your post. I chose to leave the relationship and then after 2 years made the decision to give it another go. We’re now 5 years post knock and he stays here half the week with very limited unsupervised contact with our daughter.
It's a process to rebuild trust and put boundaries in place. Do you manage to find any time for yourself? I know how challenging that is. If you are able to give yourself a little bit of time I'd recommend hypnotherapy. This helped me to process the trauma, build up confidence and generally become more present in my life. Always just a message away if you need a listening ear xxx
It's okay to have concerns and to act on them. It's okay to end things or have a break, or not. You don't have to stay in a relationship you don't want. Your instincts and feelings matter. Listen to them and do what works for you. Whatever you decide doesn't necessarily have to be forever. You only get one life. Anyone who doesn't understand your right to choose isn't worth listening to.