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Hi all. I am heading towards 3 years my husband (soon to be ex) was arrested. although I have become much stronger my son and I still suffer so much trauma from the knock and those early days after the arrest. Such as the dreadful way the police treated us and incompetent social services, along with my struggle to get mental health help for my son. I always vowed I would try and help others like us. We are so understood and still hiding in the shadows with the associated shame.
One I have arranged a meeting with my local MP to discuss my experience and ideas I have about what I feel should change.
if you have any ideas about what you think would have helped you let me know.
thank you
Lisa (putting my name for once as sick of the stigma!)
One I have arranged a meeting with my local MP to discuss my experience and ideas I have about what I feel should change.
if you have any ideas about what you think would have helped you let me know.
thank you
Lisa (putting my name for once as sick of the stigma!)
Hello,
There are lots of things that MPs could do.
For the victims - better regulation. Shut down these awful places like Kik. They've already done it for Omeagle, so it must be possible.
for the families - some kind of secondary victim status to allow us to access victim support and perhaps get better entitlement to anonymity of some sort
for the offenders - a legal "off ramp" - from what I gather most men stop once they're caught. There should be some way that they can self report and get help without facing conviction.
x
There are lots of things that MPs could do.
For the victims - better regulation. Shut down these awful places like Kik. They've already done it for Omeagle, so it must be possible.
for the families - some kind of secondary victim status to allow us to access victim support and perhaps get better entitlement to anonymity of some sort
for the offenders - a legal "off ramp" - from what I gather most men stop once they're caught. There should be some way that they can self report and get help without facing conviction.
x
Its all one it being reported but this affects the family also wete still traumatised by the vigilante groups at my sisters home my dad has nightmares most nights and shouts out all the time its horrific those protests should not be allowed and criminal charges should be brought upon anyone throwing any kind of object as someone's home especially when other children live their also its ridiculous if you could mention that would be good ???? and good luck i hope you get sometong out of the MP for change and agree with what's been said above already also
Hi Lisa,
Definitely some specialised support for the non offending partners.
My ex was surrounded with support from his mosovo to probation whilst we received next to no help.
Sending you strengh you brave lady ???????? xxx
Definitely some specialised support for the non offending partners.
My ex was surrounded with support from his mosovo to probation whilst we received next to no help.
Sending you strengh you brave lady ???????? xxx
Sorry, don't know why it's added in question marks ! Xxx
Thank you everyone for your feedback. I agree with all of that x
I agree with getting more support for the families, and making the vigilante groups illegal.
I agree there must be something that can be done about self reporting. If am image is accidentially received, the person has two choices, one delete and hope its never reported or two report and face possible prosecution. If not searched for but accidentially loads there should be an avenue to report this. The law does say to be found guilty the cps must prove intent. But i have heard of a few cases on here that even without intent people are being found guilty. If they want these sites closed down, then how are they going to find them if no one reports them. Good luck with the MP and please let us know how you get on.
I agree there must be something that can be done about self reporting. If am image is accidentially received, the person has two choices, one delete and hope its never reported or two report and face possible prosecution. If not searched for but accidentially loads there should be an avenue to report this. The law does say to be found guilty the cps must prove intent. But i have heard of a few cases on here that even without intent people are being found guilty. If they want these sites closed down, then how are they going to find them if no one reports them. Good luck with the MP and please let us know how you get on.
Anxious mummy
I have great admiration for you being so brave to talk to your MP about this.
Please ask them to review a report on prosecuting Sexual offences written by the Justice Working Party in 2019 and ask them to ask Parliament why the recommendations made in it have not been implemented. The report is accessible via a link at the bottom of the website page on the link below.
https://www.justice.org.uk/work/prosecuting-sexual-offences
They make several recommendations regarding the role of internet companies and the need for education to reduce the number of victims and to help prevent sexual offences.
On p.39 they recommend an IIOC conditional diversion scheme due to the increasing numbers of prosecutions for these offences clogging up the criminal justice system (many of them young people aged 18-24 that do not understand the law, and also many U18s).
Also, ask your MP to consider reaching out to Professor Rachel Armitage . She is currently in talks with IPSO about the impact of media reporting on families, especially children, in an attempt to get press standards changed with regard to these secondary victims. She has been collating evidence from families willing to share their experiences following media coverage of a family member’s offence.
Please let us know how your meeting goes.
I have great admiration for you being so brave to talk to your MP about this.
Please ask them to review a report on prosecuting Sexual offences written by the Justice Working Party in 2019 and ask them to ask Parliament why the recommendations made in it have not been implemented. The report is accessible via a link at the bottom of the website page on the link below.
https://www.justice.org.uk/work/prosecuting-sexual-offences
They make several recommendations regarding the role of internet companies and the need for education to reduce the number of victims and to help prevent sexual offences.
On p.39 they recommend an IIOC conditional diversion scheme due to the increasing numbers of prosecutions for these offences clogging up the criminal justice system (many of them young people aged 18-24 that do not understand the law, and also many U18s).
Also, ask your MP to consider reaching out to Professor Rachel Armitage . She is currently in talks with IPSO about the impact of media reporting on families, especially children, in an attempt to get press standards changed with regard to these secondary victims. She has been collating evidence from families willing to share their experiences following media coverage of a family member’s offence.
Please let us know how your meeting goes.
Thank you again for your thoughts