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im new here and so glad to finally find there other people in the same situation as us. Our son 17 was arrested back in August for allegations from a girl on Snapchat. Our world just fell apart. Our son has been the best behaved child ever, at school and at home. We sat and couldn't think of a time he'd ever been in trouble. He was bailed under investigation with the condition he doesn't have any contact with under 16s. He returned to answer bail a couple of weeks ago where he was just re bailed. So we feel we're just back at square one. He's due back the beginning of February when he will have just turned 18 so looses the rights of juvenile court. No evidence has been found as yet . We told the detective we would hand the passcodes over. He said he would email our solicitor to arrange this. After not hearing from our solicitor I rang him. He didn't know anything about an email but had bumped into the detective a few days before whilst he was at the police station. The detective informed him that he was applying for a RIPA. I just don't understand why he would do this when we had said we would give the passwords over. Our solicitor has now said to wait and see if a RIPA notice arrives!
it has all come out now that my son was being bullied at the time he took to this app to look for female attention. Two supposedly friends were telling him he'd die a virgin, no girl would ever love him, he'd die a sad lonely old man he's ugly etc etc. it started out as banter but quickly turned into bullying on my sons side. I did notice the change in him at the time and asked him several times if something was wrong. He just said it's was fine just his mates saying stuff and not to worry. I have messages I sent to my older daughter telling her I was worried about him and asked her to talk to him when she got home from uni. She did talk to him but he refused to open up to her too!
This is all I have in my head I wake up in the night thinking about it, I go to sleep thinking about it, when I'm at work I'm constantly thinking about it! Any advice or glimpses of hope that the sun will come out again soon are very welcome
x
im new here and so glad to finally find there other people in the same situation as us. Our son 17 was arrested back in August for allegations from a girl on Snapchat. Our world just fell apart. Our son has been the best behaved child ever, at school and at home. We sat and couldn't think of a time he'd ever been in trouble. He was bailed under investigation with the condition he doesn't have any contact with under 16s. He returned to answer bail a couple of weeks ago where he was just re bailed. So we feel we're just back at square one. He's due back the beginning of February when he will have just turned 18 so looses the rights of juvenile court. No evidence has been found as yet . We told the detective we would hand the passcodes over. He said he would email our solicitor to arrange this. After not hearing from our solicitor I rang him. He didn't know anything about an email but had bumped into the detective a few days before whilst he was at the police station. The detective informed him that he was applying for a RIPA. I just don't understand why he would do this when we had said we would give the passwords over. Our solicitor has now said to wait and see if a RIPA notice arrives!
it has all come out now that my son was being bullied at the time he took to this app to look for female attention. Two supposedly friends were telling him he'd die a virgin, no girl would ever love him, he'd die a sad lonely old man he's ugly etc etc. it started out as banter but quickly turned into bullying on my sons side. I did notice the change in him at the time and asked him several times if something was wrong. He just said it's was fine just his mates saying stuff and not to worry. I have messages I sent to my older daughter telling her I was worried about him and asked her to talk to him when she got home from uni. She did talk to him but he refused to open up to her too!
This is all I have in my head I wake up in the night thinking about it, I go to sleep thinking about it, when I'm at work I'm constantly thinking about it! Any advice or glimpses of hope that the sun will come out again soon are very welcome
x
Hello Tilly20Web
I am so sorry that you and your son find yourself in this position.
The helpline may be a good place to start, if you haven't already done so. They will be able to offer you and your son support during this process.
Just a thought .....Have you personally put in writing to the Police that your son turns 18 at the beginning of next year and your concerns that he will then be treated as an adult for something that has happened when he was a youth? I feel you have nothing to lose to try this to see if they will look at the case before your son turns 18. I would also reconfirm that they can have all the passwords for the devices to speed up the process.
It makes me so sad that youths caught up in all of this, are then unfairly treated as adults due to the long timescales.
How is your son doing at the moment?
Thinking of you and your son x
I am so sorry that you and your son find yourself in this position.
The helpline may be a good place to start, if you haven't already done so. They will be able to offer you and your son support during this process.
Just a thought .....Have you personally put in writing to the Police that your son turns 18 at the beginning of next year and your concerns that he will then be treated as an adult for something that has happened when he was a youth? I feel you have nothing to lose to try this to see if they will look at the case before your son turns 18. I would also reconfirm that they can have all the passwords for the devices to speed up the process.
It makes me so sad that youths caught up in all of this, are then unfairly treated as adults due to the long timescales.
How is your son doing at the moment?
Thinking of you and your son x