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My SO will be sentenced in two weeks
on 12/8. He will be serving time as of now its 6months but as everyone here knows it can change and could go in for up to a year.
we are telling our kids tonight that he will be going in. I an terrified. Ive been unable to move off the couch today totally consumed with anxiety. I am so terrified for them. Theynhave been so happy all day not knowing what they are about to get hit with. This isnt fair i am so heart broken.
no advice needed i guess i just needed to get it out to a group that knows the pain.
on 12/8. He will be serving time as of now its 6months but as everyone here knows it can change and could go in for up to a year.
we are telling our kids tonight that he will be going in. I an terrified. Ive been unable to move off the couch today totally consumed with anxiety. I am so terrified for them. Theynhave been so happy all day not knowing what they are about to get hit with. This isnt fair i am so heart broken.
no advice needed i guess i just needed to get it out to a group that knows the pain.
Good luck with your children and sending you a big hug xxx
Letitgo- I hope things went as well as they could for you and the children. We had to have the same conversation recently with our grandchildren who live with us and I was so dreading it - piling such a heavy thing on their heads when they adore their dad. Our son did the telling and we tried to keep it to only what they needed to know but answering any questions honestly. One of them didn't want to know anything too specific whereas the other younger one seemed to need more details. We told them to come and ask anything they like as they thought of it but they haven't needed to know anything else and the worst bit was that the first sentencing date was adjourned at the last minute which unsettled them more than the disclosures did. I hope it wasn't as stressful as you were thinking it would be xx
Rainyday - thank you for checking in. My kids did really well with the news. Of course there were tears and emotions but they asked good questions and seem to digest it pretty well considering the circumstances. The next big hurdle is sentencing day which we are all dreading so much. Good luck to you and your grandkids!