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5 years on, everything settled. It was reported in media but somehow no family have seen it (as far as we know).
We have kept this 'secret' to protect us more than him but since having my daughter in July 2024, my partner has struggled with this as if it happened today. Myself and my Mum has chosen to support my Brother as he has no one else. My partner chose to have nothing to do with him which I respect. I have had to speak to Police and Social services since my daughter was born and it was agreed that he can see her as long as I am there. My partner was initially ok with that.
But lately its been eating away at him, with no one to talk as we have kept it between us, his drinking more, not sleeping etc. I have been trying to support him but he just thinks im protecting my Brother which I am not I just think he deserves a 2nd chance.
Anyone else had this issue, how did you help. I have suggested he speak to a professional via this site but he said he shouldn't have to as its all his fault not ours.
Such a difficult position to be in. I am caught in the middle. I don't know how to deal with this
We have kept this 'secret' to protect us more than him but since having my daughter in July 2024, my partner has struggled with this as if it happened today. Myself and my Mum has chosen to support my Brother as he has no one else. My partner chose to have nothing to do with him which I respect. I have had to speak to Police and Social services since my daughter was born and it was agreed that he can see her as long as I am there. My partner was initially ok with that.
But lately its been eating away at him, with no one to talk as we have kept it between us, his drinking more, not sleeping etc. I have been trying to support him but he just thinks im protecting my Brother which I am not I just think he deserves a 2nd chance.
Anyone else had this issue, how did you help. I have suggested he speak to a professional via this site but he said he shouldn't have to as its all his fault not ours.
Such a difficult position to be in. I am caught in the middle. I don't know how to deal with this
It must be incredibly hard feeling caught between two people you care about. One thing you might want to consider is contacting the helpline yourself for some support as it's important you look after yourself too, not just the people around you.
You could also try reposting this on the general discussion thread as that tends to be read more than this one.