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Do SS make you share information with school?
After the knock SS called but closed case saying I'm the protective parent and to wait and see the outcome of the investigation
my person has now been charged. I've not heard anything else from them, will the case remain closed or should I expect to hear back from them when he goes to court for plea hearing
After the knock SS called but closed case saying I'm the protective parent and to wait and see the outcome of the investigation
my person has now been charged. I've not heard anything else from them, will the case remain closed or should I expect to hear back from them when he goes to court for plea hearing
Like most things on this journey there doesn't seem to be much consistency. Ss got back in touch with me after sentencing but the case remained closed with myself and his parents supervising. They didn't inform my sons school at the time although I informed school on the enrolment forms for my daughter starting primary. It should be on a need to know basis, if he doesn't go on school grounds and your children are supervised if they have contact then school don't need to know xxx
I know it feels intrusive and scary to tell school but posts on here often praise the support they receive from their children's schools and we have personally found that to be true for both our grandsons, one still at Primary and the other at Secondary.
I was slightly concerned about our younger one as his new TA lives almost opposite us and our son visits us regularly to see his children so the TA would most likely realise who he is - but the Head assured me that only herself, the Deputy and the Safeguarding Lead on the school staff would know which I assume would be how it always works. In an ideal situation for school to know means an extra level of care and understanding for our youngsters and a safe place to go if they feel wobbly (although I'm sure there will be some accounts where this has gone wrong.) This doesn't mean they don't have that safe place at home as their first choice, but if school knows then they would never feel they had to put on a brave face all day when they felt like crying or shouting.
I was slightly concerned about our younger one as his new TA lives almost opposite us and our son visits us regularly to see his children so the TA would most likely realise who he is - but the Head assured me that only herself, the Deputy and the Safeguarding Lead on the school staff would know which I assume would be how it always works. In an ideal situation for school to know means an extra level of care and understanding for our youngsters and a safe place to go if they feel wobbly (although I'm sure there will be some accounts where this has gone wrong.) This doesn't mean they don't have that safe place at home as their first choice, but if school knows then they would never feel they had to put on a brave face all day when they felt like crying or shouting.
SS told my childrens school IN DETAIL the whole situation. I was so cross as the SW was not very nice and could not turn personal feelings off. He would have had it front page news if he could have!!! My kids are teens.
However, the safeguarding officer in the school has been AMAZING. She has kept all to herself and she has emailed me back and forth. She keeps checking in with kids and if upset speaks to them. My son who is badly bullied especially has told me when upset she is the only one he wants to and will talk to. They are allowed out of class if feel overwhelmed and can go to her office anytime. It has been amazing for them as this is one difficult situation.
However, the safeguarding officer in the school has been AMAZING. She has kept all to herself and she has emailed me back and forth. She keeps checking in with kids and if upset speaks to them. My son who is badly bullied especially has told me when upset she is the only one he wants to and will talk to. They are allowed out of class if feel overwhelmed and can go to her office anytime. It has been amazing for them as this is one difficult situation.
I told my childrens' schools myself. Both have been great, completely professional. Schools really do see all sorts and are pretty unshockable. I think it's good for the school to know so they can be ready to support your child if needed.
sw told my children's school via referral but my SW was useless so I made a point of updating them myself through the whole process "just in case sw hasn't forwarded a copy/got round to informing you yet". The school were the most supportive and helpful service involved. They weren't judgemental and focused completely on the child-not the offender. Very practical too and I really felt they'd keep an eye on my child for any emotional aftermath or mental health issues which is one area I really felt was dire with our sw encounters.
They came in person to every single family meeting on time to support even though they had no further input other than "we have no concerns, child is happy at school" . Their safeguarding leads seem to get much more training and unfortunately experience to know just what to do. They also already know your child which is a real benefit; they're not usually coming in blind like our social worker was. Much more holistic support offering to let me know if child was upset at school or if there were any rumours, even gave me a heads up when they had the police come in to do an online safety talk in case it brought back feelings for little one and they needed a grown up to talk to.
Telling my family was the worst. Work not so much, school were the biggest cheerleader and I really helped me feel like they would do everything to help me be (and show I was) a protective parent. Unfortunately that was not my experience with police or sw.
Good luck xxx
They came in person to every single family meeting on time to support even though they had no further input other than "we have no concerns, child is happy at school" . Their safeguarding leads seem to get much more training and unfortunately experience to know just what to do. They also already know your child which is a real benefit; they're not usually coming in blind like our social worker was. Much more holistic support offering to let me know if child was upset at school or if there were any rumours, even gave me a heads up when they had the police come in to do an online safety talk in case it brought back feelings for little one and they needed a grown up to talk to.
Telling my family was the worst. Work not so much, school were the biggest cheerleader and I really helped me feel like they would do everything to help me be (and show I was) a protective parent. Unfortunately that was not my experience with police or sw.
Good luck xxx