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My life was turned upside down over 3 and a half years ago with 'The knock'. But I wasn't there at the time. I came home to find him gone along with his computer etc. I just didn't know where he was and what was going on. In a nutshell the police contacted me to say he'd been arrested and my partner would tell me about it when he got home. I was in total shock when I found out later that day. I agreed he could stay and 'life' carried on. The ultimatum was 'if it ever happened again our relationship would be over.' We chose not to tell family. On a need to know basis. That was so hard. I needed support.
Fast forward to August of this year. 3 and a half years later. It happened. 'The knock' came again but early in the morning. But this time, when he came home, I told him he needed to leave. He collected some things and left. Thankfully, my family were there to support me. We are on speaking terms and I hope to have things all sorted before the end of December.
Both these events were traumatic and extremely hard to come to terms with. Frustration, anger, deceit, trust, shock, all of these emotions and more flying around. One thing I will say is, with hindsight, after the first Knock I wish I had asked him to leave the house for a few weeks so I could be given the time to process what had happened and to see if we still had a future together. It all happened too quickly. And our life was never the same. I just didn't trust him. And I was right unfortunately.
It's been over 3 months now since he left and I'm starting to rebuild my life. I feel like Me again. It was definitely the right decision. I hope, whatever your decision, you find the strength to move on too.
Fast forward to August of this year. 3 and a half years later. It happened. 'The knock' came again but early in the morning. But this time, when he came home, I told him he needed to leave. He collected some things and left. Thankfully, my family were there to support me. We are on speaking terms and I hope to have things all sorted before the end of December.
Both these events were traumatic and extremely hard to come to terms with. Frustration, anger, deceit, trust, shock, all of these emotions and more flying around. One thing I will say is, with hindsight, after the first Knock I wish I had asked him to leave the house for a few weeks so I could be given the time to process what had happened and to see if we still had a future together. It all happened too quickly. And our life was never the same. I just didn't trust him. And I was right unfortunately.
It's been over 3 months now since he left and I'm starting to rebuild my life. I feel like Me again. It was definitely the right decision. I hope, whatever your decision, you find the strength to move on too.
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Thank you for sharing, I hope you continue to grow, and that you can be happy x