Should I move away / change name
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Hi
First time posting. Have so many questions but this is something I need to know more so.
5 months on, OH has moved out, lost their job. We're having to sell and I'll be moving with the kids. I have been advised to move away from the area for our safety, backlash and for the kids sake.
Do I really? Has anyone had such a bad time after press release that they wished they had moved. Did your kids get bullied from others.
Was you recognised in the street?
How much information do the press release?
What about family members that also live close by?
I have also been told to change my surname ASAP. Should I?
Thank you x
First time posting. Have so many questions but this is something I need to know more so.
5 months on, OH has moved out, lost their job. We're having to sell and I'll be moving with the kids. I have been advised to move away from the area for our safety, backlash and for the kids sake.
Do I really? Has anyone had such a bad time after press release that they wished they had moved. Did your kids get bullied from others.
Was you recognised in the street?
How much information do the press release?
What about family members that also live close by?
I have also been told to change my surname ASAP. Should I?
Thank you x
We had local rag keyboard warriors for one night stay in same house, never any trouble to the house, daughter had one person say something at school but school were on top of ot straight away and her friends had her back completely
Can I ask who advised you to change your name?
I'm considering it but not sure!
I'm considering it but not sure!
I am terrified about the backlash that may come. The knock came approx 3 months ago - my husband has admitted to everything which is online communication with a child and sending videos/images. 15 devices have been seized still to be examined, so no idea what they will find - the biggest fear I have is that his case will be very high profile due to his profession (teacher). I want to start running and never come back!!
Not to alarm but think depends what type of area you live in my family member home was attacked by vigilante who gathered a group of over 80 people vandalised home infront of cops who did nothing to stop it may I add , family member didnt move but young person had no choice , images sent by group chat never asked for or downloaded media made it worse by only printing what they wanted unfortunately I have listed a complaint with police
Has your offenders case gone to the press? If yes then it could be worth moving to give yourself distance. It can go two ways, people can be supportive because at the end of the day you've done nothing wrong or they can be aggressive.
If its not gone to the press or you havrnt had vigilantes its not that often it goes to press. Unless theyre an interesting case its not really look at by the press.
If its not gone to the press or you havrnt had vigilantes its not that often it goes to press. Unless theyre an interesting case its not really look at by the press.
Hi, I completely understand why you’re asking the question, when you’re facing something this overwhelming, it’s natural to wonder whether moving away or changing his name might somehow soften the impact. I can only share our experience, but hopefully it gives you a realistic picture of what can happen.
My son’s case was reported on by the local media after his plea hearing and again after sentencing. His full name, age and address were published, along with details of the offence and the outcome. Because we live in a small area, the news travelled fast. Everyone who knew him knew what had happened, and the online sharing made it impossible to contain.
He struggled at first. For a while he barely left the house, and the shame and fear were huge. But the 300 hours of community service he had to complete, along with ongoing psychotherapy, actually helped him rebuild confidence and routine. As a family, we didn’t experience any direct backlash, no threats, no harassment, but there were consequences. Some people now choose to blank him in the street. He was asked to leave a sports team after someone sent the manager a link to the media story. He also lost a job because of the publicity.
Those things were painful, but they were manageable, and over time he picked himself up again. What I learned from all of this is that moving or changing his name wouldn’t necessarily have prevented people eventually finding out about his conviction.
What helped my son most wasn’t running from the situation, but slowly rebuilding his life where he was, with support, structure and honesty. It wasn’t easy, but it is possible.
My son’s case was reported on by the local media after his plea hearing and again after sentencing. His full name, age and address were published, along with details of the offence and the outcome. Because we live in a small area, the news travelled fast. Everyone who knew him knew what had happened, and the online sharing made it impossible to contain.
He struggled at first. For a while he barely left the house, and the shame and fear were huge. But the 300 hours of community service he had to complete, along with ongoing psychotherapy, actually helped him rebuild confidence and routine. As a family, we didn’t experience any direct backlash, no threats, no harassment, but there were consequences. Some people now choose to blank him in the street. He was asked to leave a sports team after someone sent the manager a link to the media story. He also lost a job because of the publicity.
Those things were painful, but they were manageable, and over time he picked himself up again. What I learned from all of this is that moving or changing his name wouldn’t necessarily have prevented people eventually finding out about his conviction.
What helped my son most wasn’t running from the situation, but slowly rebuilding his life where he was, with support, structure and honesty. It wasn’t easy, but it is possible.
