Retrying unsupervised contact post probation
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Hi everyone,
So my husband has almost completed his 2 year suspended sentence. He was sentenced Jan 2023, we have SS involved Jan 2023 to Dec 2023, in Dec 2023 he was allowed to move back home with the agreement that he was supervised in the home and wouldnt be home alone with the kids. He was growing iioc in Cat ABC. Back then the kids were G 13yr and B 5yrs. By Jan they will be almost 16yrs and 9yrs.
He's had probably 5 visits to do random checks on his phone etc and always clear. He hasn't completed the courses other people have as he didn't have it as a condition of his sentence and there isn't the funding with probation or our personal circumstances to do these course.
He has a great relationship with his probation worker and she supported him to move back home with SS.
We are hoping when his sentence is spent to re look at contacting SS and seeing if we can't discuss changing the agreement around supervision. Definitely see if we can go unsupervised outside of the home, so he can go to town with the kids or the park and also potentially see if we can go unsupervised at home during the day. So not over night.
I'm hoping that the change in the kids ages will help things and the clear checks on his phone hopefully helping too. Wishful thinking I know but worth a try to improve our home set up.
I know I need to be careful not to give ss the impression of me thinking now the sentence is over that he is no longer a risk but I do think the risk factor has decreased given the kids ages and the clear phone ect the last 2 years.
So my question i suppose is what are peoples supervising set up at the same or similar stage as us. Has anyone reached a point to go unsupervised.
Thanks all.
So my husband has almost completed his 2 year suspended sentence. He was sentenced Jan 2023, we have SS involved Jan 2023 to Dec 2023, in Dec 2023 he was allowed to move back home with the agreement that he was supervised in the home and wouldnt be home alone with the kids. He was growing iioc in Cat ABC. Back then the kids were G 13yr and B 5yrs. By Jan they will be almost 16yrs and 9yrs.
He's had probably 5 visits to do random checks on his phone etc and always clear. He hasn't completed the courses other people have as he didn't have it as a condition of his sentence and there isn't the funding with probation or our personal circumstances to do these course.
He has a great relationship with his probation worker and she supported him to move back home with SS.
We are hoping when his sentence is spent to re look at contacting SS and seeing if we can't discuss changing the agreement around supervision. Definitely see if we can go unsupervised outside of the home, so he can go to town with the kids or the park and also potentially see if we can go unsupervised at home during the day. So not over night.
I'm hoping that the change in the kids ages will help things and the clear checks on his phone hopefully helping too. Wishful thinking I know but worth a try to improve our home set up.
I know I need to be careful not to give ss the impression of me thinking now the sentence is over that he is no longer a risk but I do think the risk factor has decreased given the kids ages and the clear phone ect the last 2 years.
So my question i suppose is what are peoples supervising set up at the same or similar stage as us. Has anyone reached a point to go unsupervised.
Thanks all.
Hi,
does he have an offender manager/visor? My partners offence was communication he was sentenced to 3 years probation with 5 year SHPO and SOR. Like yourself we had the backing of probation to go back to ss for unsupervised and his return home. We self referred in February this year, one year after he finished probation. He still has visor until this coming February and she was very supportive of us moving forward as a family with no restrictions. Our daughter is 4, had just turned 4 when unsupervised was granted. I worked it into my safety plan to do this gradually as from birth until last February she was always supervised so I didn't leave them in the room together. My safety plan included moving to within earshot, then progressing to me being able to go upstairs without taking her with me. We then progressed to them going out in the community (shop or park) and that's pretty much where we are now really. I made sure to start small and not put myself in a position where my partner had to look after her to allow for it to be fully child led and she was given the final say on whether she wanted to be with dad or come with me. I still have childcare in place for school inset days but maybe within the next year I'll feel more confident about leaving her with my partner for full days. The knock for us was when I was pregnant so they've not really had much opportunity to navigate their relationship without me there so it's a confidence issue rather than trust xxx
Edited to add that going back while he still has other agencies involved might be beneficial if they are supportive xxx
does he have an offender manager/visor? My partners offence was communication he was sentenced to 3 years probation with 5 year SHPO and SOR. Like yourself we had the backing of probation to go back to ss for unsupervised and his return home. We self referred in February this year, one year after he finished probation. He still has visor until this coming February and she was very supportive of us moving forward as a family with no restrictions. Our daughter is 4, had just turned 4 when unsupervised was granted. I worked it into my safety plan to do this gradually as from birth until last February she was always supervised so I didn't leave them in the room together. My safety plan included moving to within earshot, then progressing to me being able to go upstairs without taking her with me. We then progressed to them going out in the community (shop or park) and that's pretty much where we are now really. I made sure to start small and not put myself in a position where my partner had to look after her to allow for it to be fully child led and she was given the final say on whether she wanted to be with dad or come with me. I still have childcare in place for school inset days but maybe within the next year I'll feel more confident about leaving her with my partner for full days. The knock for us was when I was pregnant so they've not really had much opportunity to navigate their relationship without me there so it's a confidence issue rather than trust xxx
Edited to add that going back while he still has other agencies involved might be beneficial if they are supportive xxx