Sentencing this week
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Hi All,
After all the waiting, the sentencing seems to be coming up too quickly. I made the decision at the knock that I couldn't remain married to him. We share a child and we've wanted to keep his life steady through all this. To the outside world it all looks like nothing changed. Very few people know about our situation. Very few people know that he doesn't live with us. Living this double life has been exhausting but worth it to preserve as much of my child's childhood as possible.
Quite frankly I'm terrified. A prison sentence is a real possibility. The cascade from that will be extensive. Besides the emotional fallout, practical consequences will be devastating. We will loose our home, etc. I'm going to tell our child this weekend of the sentencing hearing. I'm dreading this. I've planned a little family Christmas for the day before. I'm writing him a letter that he can hold onto during the day of court. I'm at loss..what can I get him as a Christmas present? Do I buy him some clothes he can put in his prison bag?
This weekend we'll go through various bits of handover - important papers, etc.
If he does get a custodial sentence, where is he likely to end up? How long until we can know where he is, visit, etc.?
For those that have been through this, what do you wish you'd known and/or what did you find useful?
I feel so out of my depth.
Thanks.
Best wishes
Hx
After all the waiting, the sentencing seems to be coming up too quickly. I made the decision at the knock that I couldn't remain married to him. We share a child and we've wanted to keep his life steady through all this. To the outside world it all looks like nothing changed. Very few people know about our situation. Very few people know that he doesn't live with us. Living this double life has been exhausting but worth it to preserve as much of my child's childhood as possible.
Quite frankly I'm terrified. A prison sentence is a real possibility. The cascade from that will be extensive. Besides the emotional fallout, practical consequences will be devastating. We will loose our home, etc. I'm going to tell our child this weekend of the sentencing hearing. I'm dreading this. I've planned a little family Christmas for the day before. I'm writing him a letter that he can hold onto during the day of court. I'm at loss..what can I get him as a Christmas present? Do I buy him some clothes he can put in his prison bag?
This weekend we'll go through various bits of handover - important papers, etc.
If he does get a custodial sentence, where is he likely to end up? How long until we can know where he is, visit, etc.?
For those that have been through this, what do you wish you'd known and/or what did you find useful?
I feel so out of my depth.
Thanks.
Best wishes
Hx