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We got the knock about 6 weeks ago and I still feel like I am going to wake up and it will all have been a bad dream. My husband was taken away while the team searched my house for devices - in the end they have taken 15. We have a daughter who is autistic and my heart breaks for her. I told her that dad has gone to work away and the missing him has been unbearable for her. We have have heavy involvement from ss and I agreed to be the authorised person for supervised contact. We had our first supervised visit this week and my daughter was thrilled to see him, it has settled her so much. My heart breaks that he has ruined our little family and I just want to pack up and move away. He was in a position of trust so the press will have a wonderful time when it gets out and that scares me the most. I am filing for divorce as soon as he gets a place to stay - he is currently in hotels and he has said he wants me to change our daughters surname when we get divorced. I am just wondering if anyone has taken legal action to stop the press?
So we spoke to a legal expert in getting things scrubbed from the internet (my person was caught by vigilantes and as such was videod and shared online) and he said that if it's during investigation you can insist upon these things being removed because it sways against presumption of innocence/fair trial.
However when it comes to the media/newspapers if they can argue it's 'in the public interest' to know the case then there's very little you can do, especially if it's around trial/setntencing.
It might be worth speaking to a solicitor who could identify how you could limit the damage, especially as your daughter might be seen as more vulnerable?
We are changing my sons' surnames too, and my husband will be changing his name after sentencing but I'm just waiting for the divorce to come through first.
wishing you all the best in this horrid little corner of life.
However when it comes to the media/newspapers if they can argue it's 'in the public interest' to know the case then there's very little you can do, especially if it's around trial/setntencing.
It might be worth speaking to a solicitor who could identify how you could limit the damage, especially as your daughter might be seen as more vulnerable?
We are changing my sons' surnames too, and my husband will be changing his name after sentencing but I'm just waiting for the divorce to come through first.
wishing you all the best in this horrid little corner of life.
thank you so much taking the time to reply. It was the police that knocked on our door - I have no clue how they found out about him? the officers that searched the house I have to say were very good in that they kept quiet and out of site while I woke my little girl up and took her down to my mother's house but I have not heard anything thing from them since then. The charges against him are communication with a 12 year old girl online. I am devastated and think of the girl constantly, I hope she is ok but all the police said was that she was not living on my doorstep. Thank you for the advice regarding seeing a solicitor. I hope you are doing ok x
Hi runaway12, I’m really sorry you’ve found yourself here. It’s still very early days for you, and it’s completely understandable if your thoughts feel scattered and overwhelming.
I’m here because of my son, whose offence sounds very similar to your husband’s. Unfortunately, my son’s case did receive media attention, so I can’t offer advice on avoiding that, but I’m very happy to offer support in any other way if I can help.