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Hi, hoping someone can give some insight or advice.
my ex partner of 10 years and children's father was arrested in February of this year for IIOC (1 picture received on Snapchat) - he has not been allowed to speak to the children or see them since.
He moved away to stay with a family member, however whilst he was on bail he was arrested again for communication with a child - he was then bailed again and it was extended 3 times. He claimed throughout that he didn't know the age however his sister was told by the police that the age was clearly stated in the conversation.
The first case was NFA'd in July, however the bail conditions were still the same due to the 2nd arrest.
The case was passed to the CPS and he was due to go to the police station today at 2pm. He was called on Wednesday last week telling him he had to turn up as he was being charged.
However his sister has told me that he was arrested again at 06:45 this morning for a further 2 conversations in November.
The police won't speak to me but they told his sister he was charged with;
1 case of him sending a video
2 of enticing into a sexual act (online)
3 of talking sexually
(not sure if the 2 ones from November are included in that list or added on).
The police officer told his sister he has court tomorrow and she wants him to be put in prison, and that they have enough evidence without even needing to go through his new phone.
I guess my question is, the court date seems very soon, is this likely to be sentancing or do they go to court for something else first?
His sister told the police he isn't allowed back to this family members house and the police officer said that that's good as she wants to keep him in anyway.
I have 3 children and feel absolutely gutted for them, they already miss their dad so much and I don't even know what to tell them now. My eldest is 10 and I feel ill about it all
my ex partner of 10 years and children's father was arrested in February of this year for IIOC (1 picture received on Snapchat) - he has not been allowed to speak to the children or see them since.
He moved away to stay with a family member, however whilst he was on bail he was arrested again for communication with a child - he was then bailed again and it was extended 3 times. He claimed throughout that he didn't know the age however his sister was told by the police that the age was clearly stated in the conversation.
The first case was NFA'd in July, however the bail conditions were still the same due to the 2nd arrest.
The case was passed to the CPS and he was due to go to the police station today at 2pm. He was called on Wednesday last week telling him he had to turn up as he was being charged.
However his sister has told me that he was arrested again at 06:45 this morning for a further 2 conversations in November.
The police won't speak to me but they told his sister he was charged with;
1 case of him sending a video
2 of enticing into a sexual act (online)
3 of talking sexually
(not sure if the 2 ones from November are included in that list or added on).
The police officer told his sister he has court tomorrow and she wants him to be put in prison, and that they have enough evidence without even needing to go through his new phone.
I guess my question is, the court date seems very soon, is this likely to be sentancing or do they go to court for something else first?
His sister told the police he isn't allowed back to this family members house and the police officer said that that's good as she wants to keep him in anyway.
I have 3 children and feel absolutely gutted for them, they already miss their dad so much and I don't even know what to tell them now. My eldest is 10 and I feel ill about it all
Just to add, social services dropped the case in October as they could see the kids were safe etc so they have no involvement now
Hi,
court will likely be to enter a plea and it sounds like the officer in charge will be pushing for him to be remanded in custody until sentencing. My partner was remanded for 6 months between arrest and sentencing. Different circumstances as I was pregnant with our daughter so I didn't have to explain anything to her.
What do your children already know about why they don't see him? Personally I would probably not bring it up but if they ask questions answer as honestly as is age appropriate. As you don't have all the information yet it seems like it might just bring worry to them unnecessarily at the moment. Maybe wait until you have more information then have a conversation with them. A lot will depend on their ages and what is developmentally appropriate to tell them. I'd update schools if you think this conversation is likely to take place over the holidays so they can watch out for any signs your children may be struggling to process things.
Ss may be back in contact with you to give you some details from court and ask if you have any plans to resume contact xxx
court will likely be to enter a plea and it sounds like the officer in charge will be pushing for him to be remanded in custody until sentencing. My partner was remanded for 6 months between arrest and sentencing. Different circumstances as I was pregnant with our daughter so I didn't have to explain anything to her.
What do your children already know about why they don't see him? Personally I would probably not bring it up but if they ask questions answer as honestly as is age appropriate. As you don't have all the information yet it seems like it might just bring worry to them unnecessarily at the moment. Maybe wait until you have more information then have a conversation with them. A lot will depend on their ages and what is developmentally appropriate to tell them. I'd update schools if you think this conversation is likely to take place over the holidays so they can watch out for any signs your children may be struggling to process things.
Ss may be back in contact with you to give you some details from court and ask if you have any plans to resume contact xxx
Could it be that the court appearance tomorrow is to extend the bail? It sound too soon for it to be plea hearing especially if he only received his charges today.
I agree with Distressed and unless they ask questions I would wait until you have more information before telling your children anything.
I agree with Distressed and unless they ask questions I would wait until you have more information before telling your children anything.
Hi, thank you for your replies. I just found out his court hearing today is to determine whether he will be held in remand or bailed again until sentencing.
due to him reoffending whilst on bail twice, I think he's most likely going to be held in remand
due to him reoffending whilst on bail twice, I think he's most likely going to be held in remand