PREGNANT AND SS BLINDSIDED
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Bit of a background. Husband was arrested in 2017 for IIOC and got 5 years on SOR. Off every thing now and has completed Horizons course and counselling etc. Level 1 offender.
I am 8 months pregnant and Just had a meeting with SW. They wont accept safety plan even though it was 8 pages long and covered everything I could think of. Supervision at all times. No nappy changes etc.
They said until they complete a risk assessment for both ot us. He will not be allowed in the house. He will only be allowed contact a few times a week and whether that is in a contact centre or not is still to be determined. He may be allowed at the birth but will not be able to hold baby after and will have to leave straight away.
I am right in thinking this is completely disproportionate considering his offence was 8 years ago and he has done everything he has been asked from then. Also not on any restrictions.
I am absolutely devastated!
I am 8 months pregnant and Just had a meeting with SW. They wont accept safety plan even though it was 8 pages long and covered everything I could think of. Supervision at all times. No nappy changes etc.
They said until they complete a risk assessment for both ot us. He will not be allowed in the house. He will only be allowed contact a few times a week and whether that is in a contact centre or not is still to be determined. He may be allowed at the birth but will not be able to hold baby after and will have to leave straight away.
I am right in thinking this is completely disproportionate considering his offence was 8 years ago and he has done everything he has been asked from then. Also not on any restrictions.
I am absolutely devastated!
Hi,
does he have access to his Horizon end point meeting notes? I found this to be helpful with my partner when ss were looking to approve unsupervised contact and him moving back to the family home.
What reasoning have they given for him not being able to hold baby at the birth? Would it be possible to have another birthing partner with your husband who would be able to supervise? It seems disproportionate to his offence. Have ss been able to contact his previous offender manager or probation officer?
As this is your first child ss will need to see how you interact with baby over the first few months to assess your capability to protect. I know that it feels harsh as you've done nothing wrong but essentially having a protective parent can mitigate most risk in the cases of known offenders. Showing that you are aware that there is a risk and prioritising baby is key. You can still get your points across in an assertive way but try not to be too defensive or dismissive of their concerns as this may cause them to think you're not working well with them xxx
does he have access to his Horizon end point meeting notes? I found this to be helpful with my partner when ss were looking to approve unsupervised contact and him moving back to the family home.
What reasoning have they given for him not being able to hold baby at the birth? Would it be possible to have another birthing partner with your husband who would be able to supervise? It seems disproportionate to his offence. Have ss been able to contact his previous offender manager or probation officer?
As this is your first child ss will need to see how you interact with baby over the first few months to assess your capability to protect. I know that it feels harsh as you've done nothing wrong but essentially having a protective parent can mitigate most risk in the cases of known offenders. Showing that you are aware that there is a risk and prioritising baby is key. You can still get your points across in an assertive way but try not to be too defensive or dismissive of their concerns as this may cause them to think you're not working well with them xxx
Thanks for the reply. They gave no justification for not being able to hold him after the birth.
They have spoken to everyone except his probation officer who has since left the profession and yes they managed to get all his horizon notes I think.
Thanks
They have spoken to everyone except his probation officer who has since left the profession and yes they managed to get all his horizon notes I think.
Thanks