Changing bail conditions
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Is it even possible? Should I try?
5 weeks ago we got the knock and a group told me my husband was being arrested and bombarded me with all the crap they had found. Along with telling the whole street aswell. (It was the worst night of my life)
The police rang me that night and asked if I wanted him home. I obviously said no, after everything the group had told me I thought he was an awful person and never wanted to see him again.
After a few days I did finally see him face to face and he explained everything, that he has an addiction to online chat rooms, that he is 100% not attracted to children and that he was on a 18+ chat room and assumed the 2/3 "kids" he was talking to were adults pretending. It still doesn't make sense to me but I believe he's not interested in children at least.
At the moment his bail conditions are he's not allowed home and me and my 2 boys are travelling every other day to see him at his parents house in the next town. Its exhausting. Even the boys are fed up with it now.
I don't want him to move back in and we are separating but I'm wondering if letting him come to us for visits would be easier on us.
I'm here to ask if anyone has ever done this? Have rang the police and asked to change the bail conditions? Did they let you? Was it a good thing or bad? Any regrets? What did the neighbours think? Will it be better or worse for the boys?
Thanks in advance,
From an extremely exhausted and heartbroken wife and mummy.
5 weeks ago we got the knock and a group told me my husband was being arrested and bombarded me with all the crap they had found. Along with telling the whole street aswell. (It was the worst night of my life)
The police rang me that night and asked if I wanted him home. I obviously said no, after everything the group had told me I thought he was an awful person and never wanted to see him again.
After a few days I did finally see him face to face and he explained everything, that he has an addiction to online chat rooms, that he is 100% not attracted to children and that he was on a 18+ chat room and assumed the 2/3 "kids" he was talking to were adults pretending. It still doesn't make sense to me but I believe he's not interested in children at least.
At the moment his bail conditions are he's not allowed home and me and my 2 boys are travelling every other day to see him at his parents house in the next town. Its exhausting. Even the boys are fed up with it now.
I don't want him to move back in and we are separating but I'm wondering if letting him come to us for visits would be easier on us.
I'm here to ask if anyone has ever done this? Have rang the police and asked to change the bail conditions? Did they let you? Was it a good thing or bad? Any regrets? What did the neighbours think? Will it be better or worse for the boys?
Thanks in advance,
From an extremely exhausted and heartbroken wife and mummy.
Hi,
is it that he can't come to the address at all or can't reside there? Bail conditions are not usually changed by phoning the oic, usually you have to wait to answer bail and then challenge the conditions. Hopefully somebody with some experience of this will reply to you xxx
is it that he can't come to the address at all or can't reside there? Bail conditions are not usually changed by phoning the oic, usually you have to wait to answer bail and then challenge the conditions. Hopefully somebody with some experience of this will reply to you xxx
Hiya,
He's not allowed in at all
I contacted our police station and finally spoke to someone and they said they wouldn't be able to change it. So now we wait until February for his bail and hopefully we can get it changed then.
Thanks for your reply
He's not allowed in at all
I contacted our police station and finally spoke to someone and they said they wouldn't be able to change it. So now we wait until February for his bail and hopefully we can get it changed then.
Thanks for your reply
In your situation where its all out in public I would personally avoid him coming to the house. If he's seen it will presumably make life harder for you and your children in your community. Sadly life will be easier for them if there is seen to be distance. How old are your boys?
Also - and I know this is hard - don't assume he's telling you the truth.
Also - and I know this is hard - don't assume he's telling you the truth.