Can you ever believe them and will i ever be able to forgive him.
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On the 22nd october we had the knock my husband of 21 years is accused of sharing a multiple file containing 15 indecent images 2 cat a children 2 beastiality and 11 indeterminate images he says he was watching porn and things started popping up that were not right so he deleted it and hoped it would go away he said he was aware of some of the files he had shared but not looked at all 15 I want to beleive him im just scared hes not being truthfull I did recieve some paper work through social services that confirms what he has said sort of with it being one incedent on he 13th jan of 15 images im just scared that I could try and deal with this part of it and then when his devices are checked theres more. Im so angry at him for what hes done but I also cant help but miss him I still love him very much as nuts as that sounds we were happy before all this or so i thought are you ever able to forgive I feel so deceived 21 years and hes kept things from me I new he had watched porn when we were younger dvds/magazines but didn't know it was something he still did and im finding it hard to understand how its ended up here i dont feel like I can trust anyone enough to talk about how I feel as im not sure they will understand im also worried about what life would look like if I did decide to try work on my marriage would it even be worth it or would I always be angry at him.
Hello, I'm sorry you find yourself here. I have no advice I am afraid as my person is not a partner. I can only try to imagine what it must be like for you. If you haven't already, I'd advise calling the helpline, I found it so helpful to have a space to talk, without judgement. Hopefully others will reply and offer support/advice. You aren't alone x
I'm so sorry you find yourself here, but there are lots of us with similar stories.
this is a shock and it's the beginning - you will start to get more answers hopefully but you also have to let yourself feel all the emotions. It's ok to be angry and disgusted and sad and love them and pity them. It's not something most of us have ever considered a possibility so please be kind to yourself and just take it as you go.
this is a shock and it's the beginning - you will start to get more answers hopefully but you also have to let yourself feel all the emotions. It's ok to be angry and disgusted and sad and love them and pity them. It's not something most of us have ever considered a possibility so please be kind to yourself and just take it as you go.
Thankyou for replying to my post means alot it the feels good to just type it out and know people understand how i feel .Theres been a few times ive felt like im loosing my mind.
We have all felt like that, and you may feel like it again, but over time less so. It is an attack on the whole system, and the mind is at the front of the receiving line! You'll get there, things will get better, and it will take time. Peace to you.
I honestly can't answer that question.
with my experience, my son qas questioned at age 14. related to 1 image, he also knew exactly what date this happened which the police confirmed. He was never arrested or devices taken as they didn't see it as being in the publics interest so I suppose it happens, I can't say that with 100% certainty.
my partner was also arrested, devices taken 1 year ago. they're currently still being processed. he says he 100% has never seen any images at all. The police didn't tell me about what images they suspect him to have viewed and he says they didn't tell him either. They did give brief details saying another investigation involving a woman he was talking sexualy too and sharing porn brought them to suspect him. That degree of unfaithfulness was enough to break my trust. We have an 11 month old daughter so I will always care
I hope you have a lovely Christmas as peaceful as possible. Its the worst time of the year to be dealing with all this. I'm just very grateful my Christmas will be better than last
with my experience, my son qas questioned at age 14. related to 1 image, he also knew exactly what date this happened which the police confirmed. He was never arrested or devices taken as they didn't see it as being in the publics interest so I suppose it happens, I can't say that with 100% certainty.
my partner was also arrested, devices taken 1 year ago. they're currently still being processed. he says he 100% has never seen any images at all. The police didn't tell me about what images they suspect him to have viewed and he says they didn't tell him either. They did give brief details saying another investigation involving a woman he was talking sexualy too and sharing porn brought them to suspect him. That degree of unfaithfulness was enough to break my trust. We have an 11 month old daughter so I will always care
I hope you have a lovely Christmas as peaceful as possible. Its the worst time of the year to be dealing with all this. I'm just very grateful my Christmas will be better than last
Hi there
Having just recently (a few weeks back) reported my partner to the police I have so many emotions and questions and feel so incredibly lost.
it turns out he has been viewing indecent images of children for 10 years, stemming from desensitisation from porn, which he has been addicted to for 15 plus years. I had no idea, he concealed this from our lives completely and I was devastated when the videos / pictures were found on his laptop.
i feel so hurt and deceived but (and im judged hugely for this) a part of me wants to help him get rehabilitation and potentially (if he gets better) continue in a relationship. As a partner (this issue aside) he was absolutely perfect.
In addition to the child pornography he was also using fake social media accounts to watch and like / follow thousands of young attractive women, which has knocked my confidence massively.
I just want to know if it's possible to have a relationship with someone that's done this, if they can be rehabilitated? What makes this incredibly difficult is that I have my own 8 year old child, so understandably his father and my family don't want anything to do with him and are extremely judgemental.
im so confused - any advice from someone going through a similar situation would be hugely appreciated :-(
Hannah B
Having just recently (a few weeks back) reported my partner to the police I have so many emotions and questions and feel so incredibly lost.
it turns out he has been viewing indecent images of children for 10 years, stemming from desensitisation from porn, which he has been addicted to for 15 plus years. I had no idea, he concealed this from our lives completely and I was devastated when the videos / pictures were found on his laptop.
i feel so hurt and deceived but (and im judged hugely for this) a part of me wants to help him get rehabilitation and potentially (if he gets better) continue in a relationship. As a partner (this issue aside) he was absolutely perfect.
In addition to the child pornography he was also using fake social media accounts to watch and like / follow thousands of young attractive women, which has knocked my confidence massively.
I just want to know if it's possible to have a relationship with someone that's done this, if they can be rehabilitated? What makes this incredibly difficult is that I have my own 8 year old child, so understandably his father and my family don't want anything to do with him and are extremely judgemental.
im so confused - any advice from someone going through a similar situation would be hugely appreciated :-(
Hannah B
Im feeling exactly the same Im just not sure if it will ever be the same after this. I just no that I couldnt ever think I would never speak to him again my husband has started taking steps to get help but i dont want to trust him again and then find out thats theres been more i dont know were my marriage will go from here but for now im just supervising the visits with our children they wanted to see there dad and I really dont think hes a danger to our children but i do think things will have to stay the same till the investigation is over i feel like ive lost myself in all this struggling understand any if it we were genuinely happily married or so I thought ????