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Around 12 months ago we had the knock. My OH was picked for talking on line to a 15yr old girl but was actually an undercover officer. They have taken his phone away which he swears theres nothing on it no photos or other conversations.
Since then he is on bail and both of us have had lots of counselling . It came out that he had gone on line to seek advice and see if he could pick up his sexual feelings as he was struggling with his low libido (which I obviously knew about) I just wish he had talked to me about how he was feeling.
He had gone onto an adult site and he says he was told at the beginning of the conversation she was older . After getting flirty he said some sexual stuff she told him she was actually only 15 he said he thought she was role playing so went along with it.
And said some more sexual stuff . I've been to hell and back 90% of the time I believe him that it was all about his low libido but still get times when I just dont know.
I'm just wondering has anyone had something similiar happen to them?
Did they get charged ?
If so what did they get?
Thanks in advance xx
Since then he is on bail and both of us have had lots of counselling . It came out that he had gone on line to seek advice and see if he could pick up his sexual feelings as he was struggling with his low libido (which I obviously knew about) I just wish he had talked to me about how he was feeling.
He had gone onto an adult site and he says he was told at the beginning of the conversation she was older . After getting flirty he said some sexual stuff she told him she was actually only 15 he said he thought she was role playing so went along with it.
And said some more sexual stuff . I've been to hell and back 90% of the time I believe him that it was all about his low libido but still get times when I just dont know.
I'm just wondering has anyone had something similiar happen to them?
Did they get charged ?
If so what did they get?
Thanks in advance xx
If it was an under cover officer they state their age from the start. They aren't allowed to say they are older and then later give a younger age, so your OH knew the age from the beginning.
Communication offences will often depend on the exact words used, because there are different types of offence. Arranging to meet up, or incitement are the most serious, with publishing an obscene article being the least serious, if they cannot find evidence of anything else.
I get the impression that sentencing is more likely to be non custodial these days, compared to what it was a few years ago. Because the numbers being arrested have increased so much, and because the jails are full.
I get the impression that sentencing is more likely to be non custodial these days, compared to what it was a few years ago. Because the numbers being arrested have increased so much, and because the jails are full.
My OH swore he didn't know the age - he still stands by that even though it was mentioned and she also spoke about school. It was an undercover officer on Snapchat.
He shouldn't have been online talking to anyone like that but he did and we can't change that.
Forensics also found evidence of other conversations but couldn't prove that they were with underage girls. Also 2 images sent during these conversations.
He was sentenced in November to 18 months probation and unpaid work, 5 years SOR and 5 years SHPO
Happy for you to message me privately xx
He shouldn't have been online talking to anyone like that but he did and we can't change that.
Forensics also found evidence of other conversations but couldn't prove that they were with underage girls. Also 2 images sent during these conversations.
He was sentenced in November to 18 months probation and unpaid work, 5 years SOR and 5 years SHPO
Happy for you to message me privately xx