I don’t know what to tell people
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My Dad was arrested three days ago.. it's a massive shock and struggling to process everything, it's like my world has been turned upside down, my Dad was a massive part of mine and my children's life, What i'm struggling with today is what to tell people and my children, it's Christmas and there are a lot of questions, i can't lie and feel like i'm just isolating myself from friends and in laws, do people have any advice how you dealt with this.
Its really hard and some people I thought would be compassionate and supportive have turned out to be the opposite. Now I pretty much don't tell anyone.
I have been very fortunate that family and friends that have been told have been very supportive and understanding. It took a little while for some as like I their world was turned upside down. But after a long chat and talking about why they understood.
I think its important before you tell anyone to truly think if theyd be accepting or not because people do unfortunately loose friends and family once told.
My nieces and nephew dont know anything. Because my husband and I live separately due to having a child all theyve been told is we have separated (technically true) but we are working on things. They know mummies and daddies don't always stay together so it was the easiest thing. Mu daughter is too young to understand, she was a baby when he was arrested and this is just her normal. Im semi hoping that she will never have to know. I had always planned to teach her when appropriate to her age about not letting others touch her under her clothes and all of that anyways. I dont feel there is a need to go into because daddy did a bad thing talk.
Have a think what you think would be appropriate for them to know i guess. For us we haven't told the kids as we don't want them to be affected by it. They see my husband just never alone and they've not questioned it so far.
I think its important before you tell anyone to truly think if theyd be accepting or not because people do unfortunately loose friends and family once told.
My nieces and nephew dont know anything. Because my husband and I live separately due to having a child all theyve been told is we have separated (technically true) but we are working on things. They know mummies and daddies don't always stay together so it was the easiest thing. Mu daughter is too young to understand, she was a baby when he was arrested and this is just her normal. Im semi hoping that she will never have to know. I had always planned to teach her when appropriate to her age about not letting others touch her under her clothes and all of that anyways. I dont feel there is a need to go into because daddy did a bad thing talk.
Have a think what you think would be appropriate for them to know i guess. For us we haven't told the kids as we don't want them to be affected by it. They see my husband just never alone and they've not questioned it so far.