Is breaking up the only option?
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Has anyone stayed with their partner after they have pleaded guilty and been convicted of IIOC? How does it work when you have kids and they have a 10 year SHPO?
My oh was 5 images, social work visited us only once and closed the case he was allowed to be alone with her he posed no risk to her, he received 180jours community payback, 1 year supervision and 1 year on register
Were out the other side next month sees 1 year since conviction spent
Were out the other side next month sees 1 year since conviction spent
How come they deemed him as no risk? My ex wasn't allowed unsupervised contact as soon as he was arrested and we had a Social Worker involved throughout. After he was arrested a second time and our children were put on a Child Protection plan I decided we were over. His conviction is spent now but I still see it as incompatible with family life.
We are still together but I'm holding on by a thread. I'm also curious why he was allowed to see your daughter?
Hi there, my partner was arrested valentines day 2023 and pleaded guilty april 2024 and was sentenced June 2024. I have 2 children from a previous relationship and at the time we had one of our own. We had social involvement and After sentencing he was allowed to move back home we just had a safety plan to follow, wasnt allowed unsupervised contact and things which we stuck too. We then fell pregnant again and when his offender manager did a random visit and checked his phone they see he had watched porn (i cannot tell you what that did to me) They sent a report back to social services that said he had strong uncontrollable sexual urges and he was made to leave home again even though nothing he watched was illegal and there was nothing illegal on his phone or anything. Anyway social services put all 4 children on a child protection plan and that was a year and half ago now. They're still on it. I have had to have parenting assessments and all sorts and my partner has had to do a number of things to prove to them. Hes gone to porn addiction sessions and therapy and completed courses. We jumped through every hoop they put out whilst still saying we was going to stay together and hed be moving home when it was safe to do so. I had repeatedly questioned why I only need the assessments now and noone could answer. My social worker who is trying to get us off of child protection plan as she has said we don't need to be on it said about a month ago had all of this been done before he moved back home after sentencing none of this would be happening now. It took so long but we had a multitude of obstacles to overcome but hes now home half the week, has regular contact with my older 2 and in a few months time will be returning home full time. But is well aware one more thing and im done. We jumped through every hoop given but still maintained we'd be staying together unless it effected the children. As long as your following everything they ask of you, its ok to fight to be together. Your partner just has to be willing to fight with you though. And with social services never against them, thst only ends up in more heart ache.
Sorry also just to add my partner is 10yrs on the register and 5yrs shpo but his shpo is mainly Internet based. Nothing to say he cant live with children or anything. Im not sure if yours is different.