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Hi everyone, this is my first post. I don't really know what to say other than it's been almost a month since my brother was arrested and has been held on remand for his offences since. He is due to be sentenced next week. As much as reading this forum has been helpful I've not found a case similar to mine really and was wondering if there is anyone out there going through similar. Some of my brother's offences involve images of my own child and so the shock, guilt, betrayal everything is multiplied and I have can't even begin to put into words how this all is feeling.
A lot of the posts are here ive come across are forgiving or supportive of their person and everyone handles things differently but due my brother's betrayal he is dead to me and I never want to see or speak to him again. But of course after a lifetime of him as my loving brother and loving uncle to my children this is also really hard to process.
I was wondering if anyone else is going through similar who could maybe share some wisdom or just a conversation.
Thanks
A lot of the posts are here ive come across are forgiving or supportive of their person and everyone handles things differently but due my brother's betrayal he is dead to me and I never want to see or speak to him again. But of course after a lifetime of him as my loving brother and loving uncle to my children this is also really hard to process.
I was wondering if anyone else is going through similar who could maybe share some wisdom or just a conversation.
Thanks
My person is my OH so different to your situation but I did not want to read your post and leave you waiting for a reply.
To begin, a month is not along time to process what has happened. There are many people on this forum with all different stories, and some have supported their family member and some have not.
Please be assured there is no right or wrong decisions, only a decision that is right for you.
I hope some one can help you with advice that have a similar story to you. But in the meantime, please take care of yourself. This is a huge shock and will take time to process.
To begin, a month is not along time to process what has happened. There are many people on this forum with all different stories, and some have supported their family member and some have not.
Please be assured there is no right or wrong decisions, only a decision that is right for you.
I hope some one can help you with advice that have a similar story to you. But in the meantime, please take care of yourself. This is a huge shock and will take time to process.
Sending all the sympathy in the world. I applaud your decision and I hope you feel no guilt, it's not your fault.
Having it concern actual images of your own child must be absolutely beyond terrible. Adult porn is bad enough, child porn much worse, but your own child???????? I cant imagine how you could ever get over that.
I hope you can get some counselling help. Can the Stopitnow helpline suggest something?
Sending warm thoughts....
I hope you can get some counselling help. Can the Stopitnow helpline suggest something?
Sending warm thoughts....
Ive not gone through this as the images my husband had were all common images. But if he had posted pictures of our child or any children we knew I just wouldnt be able to see or talk to him again.
Its was hard enough to forgive his actions when theyre children you dont know.
You have to morn the person you did know is the best analogy I can give. You know they were a good person once but theyve chosen to do one of the worst crimes you can commit. Give yourself time and some space to breath too. A lot of self care and in time it will get easier and easier that theyre no longer part of your life.
Its was hard enough to forgive his actions when theyre children you dont know.
You have to morn the person you did know is the best analogy I can give. You know they were a good person once but theyve chosen to do one of the worst crimes you can commit. Give yourself time and some space to breath too. A lot of self care and in time it will get easier and easier that theyre no longer part of your life.