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Had the knock on the door before Xmas and OH has been accused of indecent images(2) on an app which he signed up to in December 2024 but never used. Still allowed to see kids just not alone or over night. Had all bar 3 devices back. 3 mobile phones being examined. Had a call today to say SW and office want to come update me on Friday as 2 images have been found on the devices nothing more than that information. Confused if it's something serious would my OH been arrested and taken away when the images found.OH has categorie said he hasn't taken any photos or downloaded anything.
Why the long wait in finding something to wanting to discuss we me. Getting very limited information from anyone and I need support
Why the long wait in finding something to wanting to discuss we me. Getting very limited information from anyone and I need support
Hey,
First of all, sorry that you have found yourself here, no one expects to be in this situation.
My partner was arrested and a device seized for examination. The police confirmed IIOC on the device but was RUI whilst the investigation went on, this may be what has happened to your OH. My OH was RUI from the beginning until the end (he received a suspended sentence, SOR and SHPO).
My and my OH don't have children, so I can't give much help with SW!
It took from date of arrest to sentencing around 2.5 years. I was told told this was a normal timeframe.
The device will be examined to determine if they are IIOC or chats etc. They will be put into categories and then counted as some images can be duplicated. They will also be put through a system to see if any of the victims are on a missing children's list or something (this is what I was told by his OIC).
I hope that this helped? Message me if you need a chat x
First of all, sorry that you have found yourself here, no one expects to be in this situation.
My partner was arrested and a device seized for examination. The police confirmed IIOC on the device but was RUI whilst the investigation went on, this may be what has happened to your OH. My OH was RUI from the beginning until the end (he received a suspended sentence, SOR and SHPO).
My and my OH don't have children, so I can't give much help with SW!
It took from date of arrest to sentencing around 2.5 years. I was told told this was a normal timeframe.
The device will be examined to determine if they are IIOC or chats etc. They will be put into categories and then counted as some images can be duplicated. They will also be put through a system to see if any of the victims are on a missing children's list or something (this is what I was told by his OIC).
I hope that this helped? Message me if you need a chat x
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Since the Knock,My OH went in for questioning then released with bail conditions can't remember the exact one but presuming we have children. 90 per cent of the devices taken came back clear before Xmas so got the knock on 14 December 2025 I think and then on the 23rd December 2025 OH could go pick up devices which had been checked the only 3 devices which needed to be checked were 3 phones 1 of which is the OH personal mobile 1 of which has been repaired as my Daughter broke the screen on it and 1 a stop gap for my OH to use when his broke. I get a text today to ask if the police officer and SW can come round on Friday as they have an update. SW wouldn't say anyone to me said need to leave it to the police. So pushed my OH to get answers as I was not happy to wait till Friday for an update. In my head I am wondering if it's really serious they would of wanted to speak to me today wouldn't they. All sorts going though my head and feel I've no one to talk to l.
Since the Knock,My OH went in for questioning then released with bail conditions can't remember the exact one but presuming we have children. 90 per cent of the devices taken came back clear before Xmas so got the knock on 14 December 2025 I think and then on the 23rd December 2025 OH could go pick up devices which had been checked the only 3 devices which needed to be checked were 3 phones 1 of which is the OH personal mobile 1 of which has been repaired as my Daughter broke the screen on it and 1 a stop gap for my OH to use when his broke. I get a text today to ask if the police officer and SW can come round on Friday as they have an update. SW wouldn't say anyone to me said need to leave it to the police. So pushed my OH to get answers as I was not happy to wait till Friday for an update. In my head I am wondering if it's really serious they would of wanted to speak to me today wouldn't they. All sorts going though my head and feel I've no one to talk to l.
At the time I left my OH and the police didn't update me until 2 weeks after he was arrested. Try not to think too much into it (I know it's easier said than done) - it may be because you guys have children together as you said but I hope all goes well x
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I just wonder if it was something major they would of been in touch sooner Ie if they were to stop him having any contact with the children ect. Stomach filled with dread for tomorrow.
I just wonder if it was something major they would of been in touch sooner Ie if they were to stop him having any contact with the children ect. Stomach filled with dread for tomorrow.
Was it a 'dodgy' app? Or a common one? I assume he was he arrested when the devices were taken? He probably wouldn't be arrested again, I think they will be carrying on the investigation. Unfortunately whether 2 images or 200, we are all in the same boat here and all have to go through the same process.
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It's not an app I've ever heard of, and yes he was arrested on the day of the knock and devices taken away that day. I understand it's all under investigation. I just don't understand the next steps if anything else is found will his bail conditions change how much do we get updated ext or does his bail condition stay as is for the three months they adivised when he first went in. So many unanswered questions.
Can I ask what your story is ?
It's not an app I've ever heard of, and yes he was arrested on the day of the knock and devices taken away that day. I understand it's all under investigation. I just don't understand the next steps if anything else is found will his bail conditions change how much do we get updated ext or does his bail condition stay as is for the three months they adivised when he first went in. So many unanswered questions.
Can I ask what your story is ?
There are certain apps that are more of a red flag to police because they are known to have IIOC. Some men may know that and some may not, I suppose the police can't take any chances.
In our case, OH was arrested, charged and bailed in the same day. Bail conditions never changed throughout the 21 months until plea. We had an update from the police after forensics about 10 months after arrest.
I'm not sure if bail conditions are ever changed during the process. It is all waiting, we never chased anything with the lawyers or police, we just carried on with life as best as we could. The knock to sentencing was 22 months.
In our case, OH was arrested, charged and bailed in the same day. Bail conditions never changed throughout the 21 months until plea. We had an update from the police after forensics about 10 months after arrest.
I'm not sure if bail conditions are ever changed during the process. It is all waiting, we never chased anything with the lawyers or police, we just carried on with life as best as we could. The knock to sentencing was 22 months.
Key here is - saying he can be supervised etc, it this from police or SS? We have this from Police and on two occasions the police have said "we wont be knocking on your door to check on you" which we thought a bit odd, but they are only concerned with convicting your OH. If SS havnt yet been involved and two items have been found - same as for my OH then im afraid you might be entering a very different place and im guessing you have kids otherwise SS wouldnt be involved. Suspected of posessing (which is the very lowest charge) pretty much instigates a section 47 review leading to a Child Protection Plan. I sincerely hope this isnt the case for you but it is for us. Please, if you do nothing else call the help line st the Lucy Faithful Foundation and chat to them. They are completely ananymous professionals and will be much better at helping you than me or anyone else other that a solicitor. Keep us posted XXX
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Yes we have got ss involvement due to the nature of the investigation. Had an update today and they have advised that the devices have gone to forensics and that the bail conditions imposed are the same as when he was arrested and they reassured me today that it is not pictures which have been taken or produced by my husband but he's clicked on a link/pop up and the images came up. He has admitted to watching p*rn but never of under 18s.
none of this is easy and we have both talked about worse case senarios ect. Am I silly for sticking by him. He swears he has not done anything and this accusation is killing him and making him feel dirty.
Feel we are in for a crap 2026 as we are now left hanging as we won't get any updates really.
Yes we have got ss involvement due to the nature of the investigation. Had an update today and they have advised that the devices have gone to forensics and that the bail conditions imposed are the same as when he was arrested and they reassured me today that it is not pictures which have been taken or produced by my husband but he's clicked on a link/pop up and the images came up. He has admitted to watching p*rn but never of under 18s.
none of this is easy and we have both talked about worse case senarios ect. Am I silly for sticking by him. He swears he has not done anything and this accusation is killing him and making him feel dirty.
Feel we are in for a crap 2026 as we are now left hanging as we won't get any updates really.
No you are not silly for sticking with him. We are all human and make mistakes. Unfortunately SS have made so many massive f-ups in the past that they now throw everything thay have at you to reduce their liability. So by sticking by him you are giving him massive support and you can then support each other. Its going to be a very rough year and beyond for both of us.
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The police have put it in his bail conditions he can be supervised with Under 18's the SW involvement is because we have children and they are happy we are meeting and taken this serious. They advised that the amount of family's in the same situation as us who don't is huge. The police as crap as this situation in have be very good and have now advised that whilst the investigation is ongoing we just live life as 'normally as we can' still go out ect abroad if we want to go on holidays, can take the kids just have to have two separate rooms ect.
My OH has been open with me from the day of arrest and I've been honest with him, we are talking which I feel is a good sign just sucks that we have a long road ahead just wish we could have a deadline timeframe but hey ho thats life and resources are stretched.
I will be checking in on this forum as it's been a great help to get my head around things and know I have others for support as although we have told a small network of people it nice to be able to come here and read how others are coping who are in the situation as me.
The police have put it in his bail conditions he can be supervised with Under 18's the SW involvement is because we have children and they are happy we are meeting and taken this serious. They advised that the amount of family's in the same situation as us who don't is huge. The police as crap as this situation in have be very good and have now advised that whilst the investigation is ongoing we just live life as 'normally as we can' still go out ect abroad if we want to go on holidays, can take the kids just have to have two separate rooms ect.
My OH has been open with me from the day of arrest and I've been honest with him, we are talking which I feel is a good sign just sucks that we have a long road ahead just wish we could have a deadline timeframe but hey ho thats life and resources are stretched.
I will be checking in on this forum as it's been a great help to get my head around things and know I have others for support as although we have told a small network of people it nice to be able to come here and read how others are coping who are in the situation as me.