Complete denial, nfa'd but only just
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Hi, had the knock last January, complete shock first thing in the morning, house searched with young children home. The police took devices belonging to my husband and also my sons phone due to them being informed of activity through our Internet.
Husband stated his innocence, son was clearly extremely upset by the situation. Fast forward and get informed that it is NFA, however husband had one old laptop destroyed and I was informed by oic that there were search history results clearly looking for csam and several of them as well as images which could have possibly been underage but no way of proving and could be on the cusp. Husband has denied this saying the officer has lied, obviously they would gain nothing from lying about it as they couldn't charge.
I have had to deal with children's services and they have stated that I am a protective person and have closed the case.
How can someone deny they have done anything wrong when the police have found the searches? I feel as if a person can not admit and apologise to wrong doing especially when proven that they don't see they have done wrong and are dangerous.
Has anyone else dealt with this complete denial? The officer said NFA doesn't mean innocent in this case unfortunately a lack of evidence to charge
Husband stated his innocence, son was clearly extremely upset by the situation. Fast forward and get informed that it is NFA, however husband had one old laptop destroyed and I was informed by oic that there were search history results clearly looking for csam and several of them as well as images which could have possibly been underage but no way of proving and could be on the cusp. Husband has denied this saying the officer has lied, obviously they would gain nothing from lying about it as they couldn't charge.
I have had to deal with children's services and they have stated that I am a protective person and have closed the case.
How can someone deny they have done anything wrong when the police have found the searches? I feel as if a person can not admit and apologise to wrong doing especially when proven that they don't see they have done wrong and are dangerous.
Has anyone else dealt with this complete denial? The officer said NFA doesn't mean innocent in this case unfortunately a lack of evidence to charge
I get a feeling I'm dealing with it right now with very similar circumstances. The oic hasn't spoken to me at all but gave a statement to ss to read to me about " although nothing illegal found his online conduct was worrying enough to feel he may be a risk to children" also nfa.
I've asked time and time again for him to get a solicitor because he claimed the police gave no reason for his arrest other than him being in contact with someone else being investigated, I wanted to know the real reason. He minimalised everything and swept it under the carpet a whole year while I gave birth and brought up our almost 1year old daughter.
I dropped it to him after ss phonecall that I was done and wasn't going to be fighting his battles, he will only have supervised access for as long as ss advice and I feel it necessary.
ss told me he wasn't aware of the nfa so I left it 5 days before allowing him a visit. when I asked him had he spoke to the police just "no" not why. when I explained what I was told, nothing. when I exclaimed that I was surprised his grown up daughter hadn't heard from ss and let him know, nothing. His only comment was that the oic was a dxxkhead for not calling him first. Either he's a downright liar or couldn't care less and that just reinforces my decision.
As much as I can hand on heart say I'd have never seen any of this coming, his lack of care in giving me the details I as a mother need speaks absolute volumes. maybe not so much denial but indifference.
Don't let him ruin what little peace you may have away. Love isn't always enough. sending hugs
I've asked time and time again for him to get a solicitor because he claimed the police gave no reason for his arrest other than him being in contact with someone else being investigated, I wanted to know the real reason. He minimalised everything and swept it under the carpet a whole year while I gave birth and brought up our almost 1year old daughter.
I dropped it to him after ss phonecall that I was done and wasn't going to be fighting his battles, he will only have supervised access for as long as ss advice and I feel it necessary.
ss told me he wasn't aware of the nfa so I left it 5 days before allowing him a visit. when I asked him had he spoke to the police just "no" not why. when I explained what I was told, nothing. when I exclaimed that I was surprised his grown up daughter hadn't heard from ss and let him know, nothing. His only comment was that the oic was a dxxkhead for not calling him first. Either he's a downright liar or couldn't care less and that just reinforces my decision.
As much as I can hand on heart say I'd have never seen any of this coming, his lack of care in giving me the details I as a mother need speaks absolute volumes. maybe not so much denial but indifference.
Don't let him ruin what little peace you may have away. Love isn't always enough. sending hugs