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So initial child care plan meeting is thurs aft. Which we were told was when decisions going further would be made. Social worker turns up tonight, no report, will email it in the morning...and by the way your OH must go to the council in the morning and make himself homeless. Hes not spent a single night with us since the knock but has been coming in when theres no one here to wash and eat - but aparently a seniour level meeting took place behind closed doors today and being here on his own is deemed too high a risk. And something about going in front of a judge so an independant risk assessment can be made. If he's not here what risk is there. Well that just about destroys what little bit of family normality we still had. Existing safeguards are near watertight but they didnt want to know. I feel duped!
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Where are you currently with SS- are you on CIN or CPP? Unfortunately it's pretty standard for SS not to allow the offending person to live at the house and there is always a debate on whether the mother can supervise and is protective.
SS cannot just say that your person will be put in front of a judge, that isn't the norm and judges are only involved when care proceedings start. It's quite rare for online offences to result in care proceedings. It sounds like they need to fund a specialist risk assessment of him. Have SS said anything since? Has your person been charged yet?
Where are you currently with SS- are you on CIN or CPP? Unfortunately it's pretty standard for SS not to allow the offending person to live at the house and there is always a debate on whether the mother can supervise and is protective.
SS cannot just say that your person will be put in front of a judge, that isn't the norm and judges are only involved when care proceedings start. It's quite rare for online offences to result in care proceedings. It sounds like they need to fund a specialist risk assessment of him. Have SS said anything since? Has your person been charged yet?
Hi. The police are still investigating but I think so far he has been charged with making and distributing two cat A images which showed up on a cloud account in his name. Since the process could take months to SS want a judgees findings so they can then treat the evidence as fact - they say they need this before they can get a propper risk assessment of OH done. What they didnt say was that once they have findings they can impose even more strict stuff! We are in a icpp conference soon but I recon its a done deal.
It is an awful situation that we get put through, let us know how you get on with it all x
Unfortunately SS arent always flexible. The only reason my husband "allowed" to live in our home is because I dont live there. And they questioned why I didnt move back and he rent. I said well I cant afford the mortgage on my own so id have to leave my job and claim UC and the rents in the area so high! (More then what i earn a month) so he stays there so he doesnt loose his job and pay rent over double our mortgage. They went oh, oh okay that makes sense. It took every single part of my patients to not shout st them that surely they didnt want to put a child into financial deprivation (or what ever the correct words would be for this). They didnt like when I said technically I could live in the house and buy a carrivan and he lived on the drive in the caravan because that was totally within the bail conditions (we didnt do that, I dont have that kind of spare money). They didnt officially say anything but their faces said it all.
If you and your child arent in the house then I dont get the issue, do they think he will try and hide something somewhere or something? Have they stated why they dont want him and how him going there when your child's not there is a risk. Get them to spell it out.
Depending on how many devices you may not have to wait long. From arrest to forensics was 6 months and 6 months later he was sentenced in court.
If you and your child arent in the house then I dont get the issue, do they think he will try and hide something somewhere or something? Have they stated why they dont want him and how him going there when your child's not there is a risk. Get them to spell it out.
Depending on how many devices you may not have to wait long. From arrest to forensics was 6 months and 6 months later he was sentenced in court.
Thanks Sunshine&rainbows. SS said they would help OH get emergancy housing - then turned up and ordered him to be out the caravan in 24 hours or they will start legal proceedings to have our daughter taken away. Numerous times they said they would help with this and that and not once have they done anything they said they would. I honestly dont know how they sleep at night. One day they tell you that splitting up families is not what theyre about and next morning thats what they tell you must happen. OH is utterly destroyed and I realy fear for him. In 48 hours he will be homeless, I can not believe it. We are destroyed.
How are they allowed to do this? It doesn't make any sense. It's only the same as living on the same street in a different house.
The thing I don't understand is that my OH's family is so close involving 2 nieces who are very close in age to my daughter, and they are around him just as much but have no SS involvement when to me they should be classed as just as much of a risk as my daughter is (in their eyes)
The thing I don't understand is that my OH's family is so close involving 2 nieces who are very close in age to my daughter, and they are around him just as much but have no SS involvement when to me they should be classed as just as much of a risk as my daughter is (in their eyes)