An update, years on
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I often log on and read stories ,bit I hope this update helps a few people .
Over the years I've been through hell with my son offending twice ,the first time as a minor ,and the second time as an adult resulting in a prison sentence of over two and a half years .
My neighbours and friends turned on me ,and I became homeless and had a breakdown .
I didn't speak to my son for a year .
My life stabilised, and my son and I became close again ,and when he was released I agreed he could move in with me .
My neighbours when they found out he was moving in with me started to shout abuse at me ,and just before he was released, an anonymous letter was sent via second class post to every house in my street and at least two others ,with my sons crime in detail and MY FULL ADDRESS ON. If this wasn't bad enough it also hit social media and was sent to my mp !!
Well this time I stood my ground ,I got motion cctv all round my house ,had my house fireproofed by the fire brigade ,had ring doorbells fitted ,and walked around with my head held high ,having good friends constantly coming to my house so they could see I had friends and a support network ,and always left my house looking immaculate and bold .I also brought a convertable car and drove around with the roof off and music blaring out .the reason being PEOPLE PICK ON WEEK PEOPLE ,and I know that from very bitter experience!!!
It's been four months since he was released, and so far I've had no trouble off anyone this time .
He is starting private therapy soon ,and as a mother I realise that if I didn't support him he would have noone ,and noobe gets anywhere without support.
He realises that he is incredibly lucky to have my support, and it's early days .
Life isn't brilliant ,but it's bearable, we have agreed to be open and honest going forward and that's all I can hope for .
However bad it gets ,and believe me I was scared for my life at one stage with windows going through and people trying to set fire to my home,it does die down ,and eventually you can look to the future
Over the years I've been through hell with my son offending twice ,the first time as a minor ,and the second time as an adult resulting in a prison sentence of over two and a half years .
My neighbours and friends turned on me ,and I became homeless and had a breakdown .
I didn't speak to my son for a year .
My life stabilised, and my son and I became close again ,and when he was released I agreed he could move in with me .
My neighbours when they found out he was moving in with me started to shout abuse at me ,and just before he was released, an anonymous letter was sent via second class post to every house in my street and at least two others ,with my sons crime in detail and MY FULL ADDRESS ON. If this wasn't bad enough it also hit social media and was sent to my mp !!
Well this time I stood my ground ,I got motion cctv all round my house ,had my house fireproofed by the fire brigade ,had ring doorbells fitted ,and walked around with my head held high ,having good friends constantly coming to my house so they could see I had friends and a support network ,and always left my house looking immaculate and bold .I also brought a convertable car and drove around with the roof off and music blaring out .the reason being PEOPLE PICK ON WEEK PEOPLE ,and I know that from very bitter experience!!!
It's been four months since he was released, and so far I've had no trouble off anyone this time .
He is starting private therapy soon ,and as a mother I realise that if I didn't support him he would have noone ,and noobe gets anywhere without support.
He realises that he is incredibly lucky to have my support, and it's early days .
Life isn't brilliant ,but it's bearable, we have agreed to be open and honest going forward and that's all I can hope for .
However bad it gets ,and believe me I was scared for my life at one stage with windows going through and people trying to set fire to my home,it does die down ,and eventually you can look to the future
Ho lovely I've private messaged you if ok xx
Ho lovely I've private messaged you if ok xx
My person was sent to prison and it was on SM etc Neighbours wouldn't speak to me One graffitied my house and burgled me I installed CCTV and got a police marker on the property
I stayed because I didn't think I would afford anything else or cope on my own I hated living in the house where the offending took place I would do anything to take me out of the house and hated returning after a day at work
Then I met a lovely man and I slowly got the confidence with his emotional and physical help to sell the property (sadly I had to give him half the proceeds) and buy myself a little flat
I'm totally skint due to my mortgage repayments but I'm happy and content I don't need grand gestures, holidays, new car etc As long as I can pay my bills and have the love and companionship of a good man
I stayed because I didn't think I would afford anything else or cope on my own I hated living in the house where the offending took place I would do anything to take me out of the house and hated returning after a day at work
Then I met a lovely man and I slowly got the confidence with his emotional and physical help to sell the property (sadly I had to give him half the proceeds) and buy myself a little flat
I'm totally skint due to my mortgage repayments but I'm happy and content I don't need grand gestures, holidays, new car etc As long as I can pay my bills and have the love and companionship of a good man
Djmichelle, Well done on standing up to the bullies. Supporting your son has taken courage and no one has the right to punish you for showing love and loyalty to him. You are an inspiration and you absolutely have every right to live wherever you choose without fear or harassment. I wish you and your son all the very best for a peaceful, positive future.
Thank you for posting, you're amazing :)
Djmichelle
Wow I kinda needed to see this today feeling a little foolish to be honest, we had sm attention keyboard warriors due to the local paper publishing, oh not all neighbours chat to him but 99% do, everyone talks to myself no problems at all except one person who lives down the street from us he shakes his head every time he sees us never said anything just shakes his head, this week I have been on annual leave so seen him more often when walking the dog this week every time I seen him I have said good morning or good afternoon, he has been the one to bow his head now and I will continue to do this until he just ignores us, we are a year next month since conviction spent we should not be living in this mans head anymore and he shouldn't be in ours.
Well done you I have often considered moving house but love my home
Wow I kinda needed to see this today feeling a little foolish to be honest, we had sm attention keyboard warriors due to the local paper publishing, oh not all neighbours chat to him but 99% do, everyone talks to myself no problems at all except one person who lives down the street from us he shakes his head every time he sees us never said anything just shakes his head, this week I have been on annual leave so seen him more often when walking the dog this week every time I seen him I have said good morning or good afternoon, he has been the one to bow his head now and I will continue to do this until he just ignores us, we are a year next month since conviction spent we should not be living in this mans head anymore and he shouldn't be in ours.
Well done you I have often considered moving house but love my home