Head screwed, do I keep positive or fear the worst?
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So just 3 days ago PLO was closed for us(was in place for funding for forensic assessment of husband which came back low risk of physical harm but medium for online)
we now have in place a 6(ish) month transition plan ending in my husband moving home over a week transition period. This is great, I am starting to supervise in small quantities leading up to June (sadly he does have a court case for a breach involving him disposing of a phone (he was told he could in person but then his ex mosovo officer now denies saying he could)...but they have said as long as he's not guilty he can move home at this point! (They've only said if he's found guilty they may seek further advice again not meaning he can't necessarily come home all being well he's not put away anyways but he has evidence in his favour so hopefully not)
so yeah...we're over the moon, all being well a way forward and finally being able to supervise and show everyone that my children come first always.
anyways, his officer come today and did her usual visit which isn't that often to be honest, suddenly she's looking through his phone on his WhatsApp work chat (he's allowed to use WhatsApp)
and now his phone has been taken and she's saying he's breached because someone ELSE in the chat has deleted a message (or come up in grey saying this message has been deleted)
how is this is a breach!? He's allowed WhatsApp and he's allowed to be in group chats, yeah if he deleted a message that's fair enough but he can't control others :,( we feel perhaps she's going hard against him so more goes in her favour for this trial in June....he's broken beyond words and all he wants is to do right and move forward for us and the way she talks to him is like he's a piece of dirt on the floor and he feels he needs to go higher and complain to somebody,
shes even saying oh look you like looking at babies and saying I'm pregnant because he forced me to get pregnant so I wouldn't leave him which is not true but she says it's fact end of and it isn't we're happy together :,(
social are happy with our progress, probation songs praises of my husband, everyone has been happy with him, so why is she being this way and I'm sorry but how is somebody else's doing a breach
never seen the man so broken he has tried so hard I'm surprised he's not run himself into the ground
just so scared social may change their transition plan or god forbid what this mosovo officer will say when she finds out about it I can see her disagreeing with it all
he really wants to change officers but is this possible ? Is it common for them to bully people?
Thankyou.....felt like we finally are moving forward and I'm scared she's just ruined our lives for good with all this. Or am I overthinking, I really don't know
we now have in place a 6(ish) month transition plan ending in my husband moving home over a week transition period. This is great, I am starting to supervise in small quantities leading up to June (sadly he does have a court case for a breach involving him disposing of a phone (he was told he could in person but then his ex mosovo officer now denies saying he could)...but they have said as long as he's not guilty he can move home at this point! (They've only said if he's found guilty they may seek further advice again not meaning he can't necessarily come home all being well he's not put away anyways but he has evidence in his favour so hopefully not)
so yeah...we're over the moon, all being well a way forward and finally being able to supervise and show everyone that my children come first always.
anyways, his officer come today and did her usual visit which isn't that often to be honest, suddenly she's looking through his phone on his WhatsApp work chat (he's allowed to use WhatsApp)
and now his phone has been taken and she's saying he's breached because someone ELSE in the chat has deleted a message (or come up in grey saying this message has been deleted)
how is this is a breach!? He's allowed WhatsApp and he's allowed to be in group chats, yeah if he deleted a message that's fair enough but he can't control others :,( we feel perhaps she's going hard against him so more goes in her favour for this trial in June....he's broken beyond words and all he wants is to do right and move forward for us and the way she talks to him is like he's a piece of dirt on the floor and he feels he needs to go higher and complain to somebody,
shes even saying oh look you like looking at babies and saying I'm pregnant because he forced me to get pregnant so I wouldn't leave him which is not true but she says it's fact end of and it isn't we're happy together :,(
social are happy with our progress, probation songs praises of my husband, everyone has been happy with him, so why is she being this way and I'm sorry but how is somebody else's doing a breach
never seen the man so broken he has tried so hard I'm surprised he's not run himself into the ground
just so scared social may change their transition plan or god forbid what this mosovo officer will say when she finds out about it I can see her disagreeing with it all
he really wants to change officers but is this possible ? Is it common for them to bully people?
Thankyou.....felt like we finally are moving forward and I'm scared she's just ruined our lives for good with all this. Or am I overthinking, I really don't know
He is now at his parents scared to sleep that they're just going to turn up and arrest him, he was left at 3:40 on a Sunday with no phone which he requires for work luckily he got one sorted and registered in time....he got panicky and she started saying on you sure all these courses are helping you looking at the state of you....so nasty, she really intimidates and upsets him
I'm at a loss, he's working hard, but they'll turn it on me no doubt oh he's breached twice why you with him and all that crap, he even has just pulled up at the house when they arrived (he came from my parents) and she accused him of trying to hide and that's why he was outside!! Sick :(
he's been told he'll get an interview he's gonna contact his solicitor but he's really worried and scared and he knows he's done nothing wrong, they've never even discussed WhatsApp in detail with him before, so he wouldn't of even known that he can't be in chats where others delete messages not that he would know when that's gonna happen!
I'm at a loss, he's working hard, but they'll turn it on me no doubt oh he's breached twice why you with him and all that crap, he even has just pulled up at the house when they arrived (he came from my parents) and she accused him of trying to hide and that's why he was outside!! Sick :(
he's been told he'll get an interview he's gonna contact his solicitor but he's really worried and scared and he knows he's done nothing wrong, they've never even discussed WhatsApp in detail with him before, so he wouldn't of even known that he can't be in chats where others delete messages not that he would know when that's gonna happen!