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mum1982H

Member since
September 2022

63 posts

I posted recently about my ex having NFA and social services advising me they didn't want any unsupervised access still, stating "police believe his online activity is a worry" nothing illegal on devices but was talking to a woman online for years sexually.

I just feel so let down, so stuck. I want to support his relationship with our 1 year old it's just so difficult. I feel really hurt by everything we've been through, his online double life and our baby missing out on the life I thought she would have. I'm starting to feel like I was living life through some rose coloured glasses. He won't talk about anything just shuts down and the second I say something he doesn't agree with goes no contact.

I suppose this is my punishment for not fighting for him. He's never even fought for himself, never questioned police, never approached ss just assumes its my responsibility.

A few days ago in a message he acknowledged our relationship is over then asked about sex, I replied with as little emotion as I could but shutting the idea down, he deleted his message and proceeded to not contact me, ignore my message and not even ask after our daughter. im so upset by how disrespectfully he is behaving and I feel like he's just going to let our daughter down.

I feel so sad for my baby having to live in such a broken home. She is the happiest, brightest baby. All I want is the best for her, yet all he seems to care about is his ego.

I know none of this is really relevant now and I've made my decision but this has been my only safe space for the last year

Posted Sat January 31, 2026 3:02amReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1328 posts

Hi,

let him go no contact. That's his choice not yours. Your daughter will be absolutely fine, she has you to love her and be in her corner consistently. Don't message him until he messages you asking about your daughter. He sounds incredibly immature and you already have one baby to care for xxx

Posted Sat January 31, 2026 8:50amReport post

Sunshine&Rainbows

Member since
July 2025

160 posts

I just wanted you to know you are enough for your daughter you dont need him. She will thrive without him because you are an amazing mum

Posted Sun February 1, 2026 1:46pm
Edited Sun February 1, 2026 1:46pmReport post

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