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Hello. I am new to here unfortunately. Last year my OH was arrested for potentially talking to what he believed to be a 14 year girl which was in fact a decoy (peadophile hunter group). They came to our home, and live streamed it all over social media before then contacting the police. I have a younger daughter so there are currently bail conditioners in place, and he is no longer living in our home.
I just wanted to come on here really to see if anyone has, or is in a similar situation to me, and how you are surviving each day not only with the news, but also with social services involved, and how you feel in every day to day life, and what you think your steps are for the future.
I just wanted to come on here really to see if anyone has, or is in a similar situation to me, and how you are surviving each day not only with the news, but also with social services involved, and how you feel in every day to day life, and what you think your steps are for the future.
So sorry you find yourself here and sounds a horrendous experience. My situation is very different involving my son who was under 18 for the most part and we haven't had any public side to it yet. But the shock is the same and all the worries of what's to come, and there are a lot of difficult aspects of the conditions he's under while they investigate. We're 3 months in and it does settle a bit, you find a new normal and way of living alongside it while waiting for the outcome. I try not to think too far ahead, one day at a time, one hurdle at a time and just focus on what I can control not what I can't. Which is most of it. There are a lot of emotions early on. I haven't rung the helpline yet but that's a good place to go for advice or support if you need it. Be kind to yourself and take it easy x
Thank you for your response - I feel it would be easier but SS are involved so it's making things harder. Although they said they aren't here to judge, they seem to he making things very difficult for me. And can't even look my OH in the face without making it obvious what he's potentially done. We have visits every 2 weeks, and every visit it's always another kick in the stomach rather than just being there. My daughter is absolutely thriving, and I am trying to live a normal as possible life for her but then she sees me upset after a SW has visited, and asks questions. X