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Yes, that was me and I know of others who have felt that way too. It's absolutely possible, as well as knowing and feeling appalled at his actions and the impact on any victims, as one doesn't exclude the other. My husband feels the same so I feel very fortunate as otherwise things might have been even harder to deal with. People can't help how they feel and maybe your husband will come around in time to seeing your son beyond what he's done.

I feel the same, overwhelming sadness but no anger x

Me too. Always remembering the unseen & innocent victims. But also overwhelming sadness for my son & anger at myself as on a couple of occasions he asked for help eg can receive in with us for a while & could we pay for him to have psychological help & we didnt do either. If I had I dont think this would have happened. I'm lucky too my husband feels the same way.

My son going to prison genuinely serves no purpose. His constant remorse & the huge amount of work he's done in the last year have been life changing. The choices he made are so far in the past now & would never happen again. All this will be undone when he goes to prison & he said hinself I dont know if I'll recover.

It must be difficult for you if you're husband is not feeling the same way, hopefully he will do over time. I hope he supports you as god knows you'll need to be there for each other.

Sorry to assume your husband doesn't feel the same as you - I didn't read your post closely enough as you did say that he too felt sad!

Apolgies me reading too fast too!