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Hi,
Me and my OH were invited to my cousins wedding before 'the knock' and the wedding is next month.
I'm not sure whether to uninvite my OH as I worry if this all comes out in the future that my family will think why the hell did you let him come.
Does anyone have experience with family events and should I uninvite him? None of my extended family know anything currently.
Any advice would be appreciated x
Me and my OH were invited to my cousins wedding before 'the knock' and the wedding is next month.
I'm not sure whether to uninvite my OH as I worry if this all comes out in the future that my family will think why the hell did you let him come.
Does anyone have experience with family events and should I uninvite him? None of my extended family know anything currently.
Any advice would be appreciated x
Unfortunately only you know your family. What i would consider if there is going to be any children at the wedding? At what stage are you at, are there restrictions already imposed on them or have they been arrested or charged yet.
There will be 2 children at the wedding and he's on bail currently, restrictions are no unsupervised contact with under 18s
And you are the supervisor, yes? If so, no prob, technically at least.
Are you very close to your cousin? Please consider what he has been arrested for, online or contact? Do any of your family know? You stated extended family dont know. Is the wedding in a church ie a place open to the public? If so could he attend the wedding but then make an excuse not to attend the reception. It is your decision, but i understand fully your reasons to think about it. Could you ask the OIC would he be allowed to make sure he is not going against the bail conditions.
Having been through this and still- one year on- struggling to maintain family relationships, I would definitely consider uninviting him. The perception that people have of our men, will never match the reality and I'd urge (potential) damage control.
Hey,
My mum & stepdad know who will also be attending the wedding but my stepdad wants nothing to do with him so that would be uncomfortable anyway.
Its at a barn so wouldn't be open to the public and it's an online offense.
I am thinking more damage control at this point, I know I can't assume that people would be happy for him to attend and I think I knew the answer to my own question before I even posted this to be honest but I just wish things weren't this way.
Thanks for all your responses <3
My mum & stepdad know who will also be attending the wedding but my stepdad wants nothing to do with him so that would be uncomfortable anyway.
Its at a barn so wouldn't be open to the public and it's an online offense.
I am thinking more damage control at this point, I know I can't assume that people would be happy for him to attend and I think I knew the answer to my own question before I even posted this to be honest but I just wish things weren't this way.
Thanks for all your responses <3
