What do I do..
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hi, I'm new to the forum and I'm so glad to finally have somewhere to turn to offload.
I've been with ny OH for 25 years and he was arrested in October last year while I was at work and charged this week for downloading 4 pictures. 1 cat b and 3 cat c.
We had a very healthy sex life and shared fantasies etc but I never thought in a million years he would be capable of this. He has a drug problem that he says is a major - only - contributing factor. He said he knew the girls were 15/16 and he deleted the very next day and felt disgusted with himself. But I can't understand- it makes feel physically sick. How can he find that a turn on?
im so ANGRY, disappointed and disgusted with him.. but I'm so confused because I still love him .. how can that be? I hate him at the same time and I want to leave.. but I also don't. I am in turmoil and really don't know what to do .
We have 2 adult sons who were home when he was arrested (happened late afternoon) and they have been amazing and will support me and him no matter what.
can a marriage be saved? Can you forgive? Can you forget.
thank you for reading and letting me vent. I feel so alone.
I've been with ny OH for 25 years and he was arrested in October last year while I was at work and charged this week for downloading 4 pictures. 1 cat b and 3 cat c.
We had a very healthy sex life and shared fantasies etc but I never thought in a million years he would be capable of this. He has a drug problem that he says is a major - only - contributing factor. He said he knew the girls were 15/16 and he deleted the very next day and felt disgusted with himself. But I can't understand- it makes feel physically sick. How can he find that a turn on?
im so ANGRY, disappointed and disgusted with him.. but I'm so confused because I still love him .. how can that be? I hate him at the same time and I want to leave.. but I also don't. I am in turmoil and really don't know what to do .
We have 2 adult sons who were home when he was arrested (happened late afternoon) and they have been amazing and will support me and him no matter what.
can a marriage be saved? Can you forgive? Can you forget.
thank you for reading and letting me vent. I feel so alone.
I was married for over 30 years with 2 adults children. Police turned up at my work to tell me.
I've had no real explanation except a porn addition which I see simply as a get out clause. Blamed everything else - even me. I thought I could save the marriage but after 10 months I decided enough was enough, that the offending would n very ever go away and I didn't want to live like that
Turns out I've been proved right as he is a habitual liar and even though he went to prison he has since been rearrested for breaking the conditions of being in the SOR
I'm now of the thinking that leopards can't and don't change their spots but that's just me
I've had no real explanation except a porn addition which I see simply as a get out clause. Blamed everything else - even me. I thought I could save the marriage but after 10 months I decided enough was enough, that the offending would n very ever go away and I didn't want to live like that
Turns out I've been proved right as he is a habitual liar and even though he went to prison he has since been rearrested for breaking the conditions of being in the SOR
I'm now of the thinking that leopards can't and don't change their spots but that's just me