Advice regarding contact - scotland
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Hi all,
I am based in Scotland, so the legal process will vary and I am just wondering how anyone else has navigated their situations.
The police attended our property in December with a search warrant, they seized all devices within the house (my children, both boys 4 and 6 were in the house at the time, however, I was allowed to take them to school and nursery). Within a few hours my husband was arrested and charged with IIOC.
The social worker attended my house the next day - my husband had been bailed to his parents house - and they informed me that the police had found several videos and images, categories A-C of both boys and girls between 3 and 13 years old. The social worker signed off on me almost immediately (I believe they had an IRD meeting a few days later where it was confirmed) and she advised that I could supervise contact if I so wished but on speaking with her a few days later she then advised no contact as this is an ongoing investigation.
I am in the process of divorcing my husband and so far have allowed a few phone calls/facetimed with the children. And I have also allowed contact with my mother and father in law. Since this time, the relationship between me and my in laws have broken down. I feel they are minimising the severity of the situation and are blaming this on my husband's secretive and ongoing drug abuse. I was completely unaware of ongoing drug issues, and feel like an absolute idiot that has been blindsided by all of this.
Given the ages of my two sons and the ages and genders of the images my husband has been viewing, I don't agree to anytime of contact right now. I feel strongly about this as I don't believe my husband has been telling the truth either. I have asked how long this went on for and how many images. He cannot tell me, he is blaming drugs.
My questions are, if anyone could help, how long will the investigation take and when is his sentencing likely to be, what will his sentencing be, and will I be told by the police how long the behaviour went on for? I feel I need to know the length of the offending and the number of images in order to make an informed choice on contact. I don't believe his parents can supervise safely due to minimisation, and I also don't want to supervise as I just can't see him anymore.
If anyone could shed any light on their experiences, I'd be grateful.
I am based in Scotland, so the legal process will vary and I am just wondering how anyone else has navigated their situations.
The police attended our property in December with a search warrant, they seized all devices within the house (my children, both boys 4 and 6 were in the house at the time, however, I was allowed to take them to school and nursery). Within a few hours my husband was arrested and charged with IIOC.
The social worker attended my house the next day - my husband had been bailed to his parents house - and they informed me that the police had found several videos and images, categories A-C of both boys and girls between 3 and 13 years old. The social worker signed off on me almost immediately (I believe they had an IRD meeting a few days later where it was confirmed) and she advised that I could supervise contact if I so wished but on speaking with her a few days later she then advised no contact as this is an ongoing investigation.
I am in the process of divorcing my husband and so far have allowed a few phone calls/facetimed with the children. And I have also allowed contact with my mother and father in law. Since this time, the relationship between me and my in laws have broken down. I feel they are minimising the severity of the situation and are blaming this on my husband's secretive and ongoing drug abuse. I was completely unaware of ongoing drug issues, and feel like an absolute idiot that has been blindsided by all of this.
Given the ages of my two sons and the ages and genders of the images my husband has been viewing, I don't agree to anytime of contact right now. I feel strongly about this as I don't believe my husband has been telling the truth either. I have asked how long this went on for and how many images. He cannot tell me, he is blaming drugs.
My questions are, if anyone could help, how long will the investigation take and when is his sentencing likely to be, what will his sentencing be, and will I be told by the police how long the behaviour went on for? I feel I need to know the length of the offending and the number of images in order to make an informed choice on contact. I don't believe his parents can supervise safely due to minimisation, and I also don't want to supervise as I just can't see him anymore.
If anyone could shed any light on their experiences, I'd be grateful.
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I am also scotland things moved very quick for us we had the knock the thursday charged the friday it was one device with 5 images, we had an independant cyber expert check the device as I also had to know details for my daughters sake, he verified that it was a link on a porn site that held the images deleted immediately and never revisited and required specialist software to be able to see it, we had the knock end november were at plea in the feb but due to us wanting private cyber expert it took a further year to get to the end, my oh was still found guilty as it was on his phone and he never reported it but I had clarification there was no search history and he never actively looked for it, he was given 1 year supervision 180 hours community pay back and 1 year on Sor. We had one visit from ss and closed case immediately and oh had no restriction towards our daughter from day one