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Answering bail confirmed for Wednesday, all so scared.

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Heartbrokenmum

Member since
August 2025

8 posts

Hi all

Its now been confirmed that our son (23 on the autistic spectrum) will be answering his bail on Wednesday, we assume he is now going to be charged and court proceedings will happen, we're quite sure that they have found evidence to convict.

We are all terrified and have been wanting this to be over with, but at the same time dreading it happening, We have been lucky in the sense that we haven't been waiting as long as others, he was arrested June last year so only 8 months, we think it's been rushed through as he tried to take his own life a few days after being arrested.

We don't feel ready for the next stages, but I don't suppose anyone is, my husband is going to be our son's appropriate adult on Wednesday at the station, because I don't think I can get through listening to the horrific details, I have no idea how I'm going to get through court, which I'm sure will list details as well.

currently waiting for a phone call from my doctor to change current anti depressants medication as this one has the side affect of insomnia which isint helping, just need to hold it together for the next few months until we are all through this nightmare.

Thanks for listening, your the only people I can talk to as we have kept this a secret just in case there is a small chance it doesn't hit media, to try and keep us all safe.

Posted Mon February 16, 2026 10:55amReport post

Clare L

Member since
February 2026

1 post

Your feelings are completely understandable, I was in a similar situation and tried to keep everything together, my loved one was arrested last August and was bailed a couple of times. Then magistrates in January and crown court this month, 1st hearing has been done and now have to wait for probation to contact us to see if they can help with alternatives to prison.

It does feel a lonely time but please be assured your not alone in your situation there are a lot of us families around x

Posted Mon February 16, 2026 1:12pmReport post

Winnie07

Member since
April 2022

176 posts

Hi Heartbrokenmum - we are coming up for air after my Son 26yrs (23 at time of offence) was sentenced after 3.5 yrs of hell.. He was diagnosed Autisic when he was 19. Please feel free to message me directly if you want to chat.

i too felt that I wouldn't get through it all. Even now I can't believe that I did - unbelievably traumatic. We have survived and we are trying now to pick up the pieces - and you will too ! Xx

Posted Mon February 16, 2026 3:52pmReport post

Kez

Member since
January 2025

20 posts

I'm here if you need a chat my son appeared in crown last week he's 24 and has severe physical difficulties it nearly broke us and him but we made it through to the other side

they where very good at seeing he was socially isolated and took mitigating factors into account and handed him a suspended sentence and time on the register

If you need to ask anything just dm me

My advice is just breath you can't do anything for what is about to happen all you can do is support him x

Posted Mon February 16, 2026 4:16pmReport post

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