i need advice and help on what to do bf found out for viewing stuff online
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so i'm a female in her early 20s. about 2 weeks ago it was discovered that my boyfriend (also an adult) had been caught viewing explicit pictures of children online. he was arrested and is on bail awaiting a like hearing and a verdict.
All my family and friends have told me to cut him off and out of my life, but i can't do that. we've been dating for 7 months and it's the best relationship i've ever had. i love him so much but it's such an awful thing for someone to do. everyone is making me feel like I shouldn't still love him and I shouldn't be able to still be with him (i have broken up with him but still staying while he gets help and i will re evaluate with time if i stay a friend or get with him again) and i have no one to talk to about how i feel and how no one will understand how im able to still love him and still want to be with him after this, i dont know myself. i am getting therapy to hopefully help, i have my first session too. I just need to be able to talk to someone who might understand this situation i'm in or understand how I feel.
is it wrong to still want to be with him after this? he is getting help and therapy for it but i have to hide that im helping him from everyone in my life in fear they'll know and hate me too and i can't bear to lose my family and friends, but i just can't leave him either. even if it's wrong i just can't.
does anyone have any advice or anyway to help? like if anyone else has stayed with a partner after this and how do you move forward from this? obviously it's something i'm never going to forget but i can't just leave him especially as he has no one else, i just can't do it.
is it so wrong for me to want to stay?
All my family and friends have told me to cut him off and out of my life, but i can't do that. we've been dating for 7 months and it's the best relationship i've ever had. i love him so much but it's such an awful thing for someone to do. everyone is making me feel like I shouldn't still love him and I shouldn't be able to still be with him (i have broken up with him but still staying while he gets help and i will re evaluate with time if i stay a friend or get with him again) and i have no one to talk to about how i feel and how no one will understand how im able to still love him and still want to be with him after this, i dont know myself. i am getting therapy to hopefully help, i have my first session too. I just need to be able to talk to someone who might understand this situation i'm in or understand how I feel.
is it wrong to still want to be with him after this? he is getting help and therapy for it but i have to hide that im helping him from everyone in my life in fear they'll know and hate me too and i can't bear to lose my family and friends, but i just can't leave him either. even if it's wrong i just can't.
does anyone have any advice or anyway to help? like if anyone else has stayed with a partner after this and how do you move forward from this? obviously it's something i'm never going to forget but i can't just leave him especially as he has no one else, i just can't do it.
is it so wrong for me to want to stay?