Holiday with SS involved
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Hi, just wanted to know if anyone has been able to go on a UK holiday (sticking to bail conditions) as in not staying in the same hotel, and Social Services have been OK with this?
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Hi NSM - whilst waiting for our son's case to reach court we took his children and him to a couple of family events and we all stayed in the same hotel. We had our grandchildren in with us and he had a separate room. Our SW was quite OK about this. We didn't even have to request rooms on different floors. I'm not claiming this is how it would be for everyone but we were a bit surprised it was allowed so easily. We also had a week away where again we had an apartment with the children and he had one in the same building where he slept and we all ate together in our apartment. The only problem was having to deter the children from wanting to go and visit daddy in his room/apartment without us tagging along too but that seems to be the story of our life now.
Are those children on a CPP if you don't mind me asking?
I raised this as I was originally told I could do what I wanted aslong as we stuck to the conditions so we went for a weekend away, and it has now become an issue all because a hot tub was mentioned but yet we have previously all been in a swimming pool together as a family and no issue was ever raised then. My little girl was wanting to a few things in London for her birthday, and we were planning on booking seperate hotels but now she's having to speak to her manager. But if it's going to be that much of a problem we will stay over, and he will have to get the train home which seems silly when our hotels are a underground train ride away.
The rules of what they want are just changing all of the time, one minute we can do one thing, and the next it's different.
Our SW is quite harsh, and very judgemental but has told something personal about her which I don't think is allowed so I feel this is why she is how she is although at the beginning I was told by her she wasn't here to judge.
I raised this as I was originally told I could do what I wanted aslong as we stuck to the conditions so we went for a weekend away, and it has now become an issue all because a hot tub was mentioned but yet we have previously all been in a swimming pool together as a family and no issue was ever raised then. My little girl was wanting to a few things in London for her birthday, and we were planning on booking seperate hotels but now she's having to speak to her manager. But if it's going to be that much of a problem we will stay over, and he will have to get the train home which seems silly when our hotels are a underground train ride away.
The rules of what they want are just changing all of the time, one minute we can do one thing, and the next it's different.
Our SW is quite harsh, and very judgemental but has told something personal about her which I don't think is allowed so I feel this is why she is how she is although at the beginning I was told by her she wasn't here to judge.
Yes they were on a CPP whilst waiting for a case in Family Court to do with their mother's care of them, as well as our son's situation. We have been very fortunate with our SW who is extremely reasonable whilst not being a soft touch by any means. It sounds like you are being told things off the top of your social worker's head - we had a 'circle of safety' which we'd had since the start of this journey and as long as we kept to that then we were OK.
The only thing we were told we couldn't do was go with our son and his children to the swimming pool - and that wasn't our SW but a doctor who one of the children told at a general health check. She complained to Children's Services and we were asked to just do other things please. Such a shame as it was one child's favourite thing to do with Daddy :(
The only thing we were told we couldn't do was go with our son and his children to the swimming pool - and that wasn't our SW but a doctor who one of the children told at a general health check. She complained to Children's Services and we were asked to just do other things please. Such a shame as it was one child's favourite thing to do with Daddy :(
Sorry what do you mean by circle of safety?
I'm glad you've had a more understand, and realistic by the sounds of it Social Worker. It's had because have to carry on some sort of life while this is investigated especially as we have been told it could take up to 2 years. They can't expect us to sit at home twiddling our thumbs as that isn't going to do anyones mental health any good. Her most recent one is that if something happens to me when in London it's the worry of what happens to my daughter but then we have quite regular days out all over, and that risk is just the same for days out.
I have never had any involvement with SS, and this plan we have which is what we are sticking by but when we go more into detail about things it's like they are nit picking at any little thing they can get hold. I know they are here because of him like I tell them all the time but just a little support would go a long way, and just a bit of an understanding for me and my little girl. I don't have a strong support network other than his family to them they absolutely hate it but then if i leave I have no one no support and I know full well they aren't going to put that support in place like they promise because they haven't stuck to any other promises they have made.
I'm glad you've had a more understand, and realistic by the sounds of it Social Worker. It's had because have to carry on some sort of life while this is investigated especially as we have been told it could take up to 2 years. They can't expect us to sit at home twiddling our thumbs as that isn't going to do anyones mental health any good. Her most recent one is that if something happens to me when in London it's the worry of what happens to my daughter but then we have quite regular days out all over, and that risk is just the same for days out.
I have never had any involvement with SS, and this plan we have which is what we are sticking by but when we go more into detail about things it's like they are nit picking at any little thing they can get hold. I know they are here because of him like I tell them all the time but just a little support would go a long way, and just a bit of an understanding for me and my little girl. I don't have a strong support network other than his family to them they absolutely hate it but then if i leave I have no one no support and I know full well they aren't going to put that support in place like they promise because they haven't stuck to any other promises they have made.
