I want to tell my family. How did your loved ones react?
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Hi all,
My OH is in limbo atm. We got raided late last year and he is awaiting sentencing so it's been about 3 months now. So far he has only told his mother and she was understanding.
I am wanting to tell my parents about what happened because I feel so alone and frustrated. I have a feeling that they may just convince me to leave my OH. But I also just want them to know so I can stop ruminating possible scenarios everyday. And I really need the support. I hate that I have to lie to them so much these days. Everytime I visit them I say that I'm fine, that my OH is fine. But we're not. I'm suffering in silence and it's killing me.
My OH said that he is willing to tell and explain everything to my parents himself. He said that when I want to tell them he will try his best to be ready. A part of me is stopping myself from telling them though, because of fear. They have a great relationship with my OH and telling them will just shatter everything. My OH is also in a very vulnerable state right now. He is very remorseful and I've been doing my best to support him to get help. I told him that I am unsure about our relationship long-term but that I would stay at least until the sentencing. It doesn't help that we are renting a whole place to ourselves. So moving out would be a hassle. I feel like I'm paralyzed by fear everyday. Like I want to tell my parents but I also don't.
For those of you that told your parents/ family, how did they react? And when did you tell them?
My OH is in limbo atm. We got raided late last year and he is awaiting sentencing so it's been about 3 months now. So far he has only told his mother and she was understanding.
I am wanting to tell my parents about what happened because I feel so alone and frustrated. I have a feeling that they may just convince me to leave my OH. But I also just want them to know so I can stop ruminating possible scenarios everyday. And I really need the support. I hate that I have to lie to them so much these days. Everytime I visit them I say that I'm fine, that my OH is fine. But we're not. I'm suffering in silence and it's killing me.
My OH said that he is willing to tell and explain everything to my parents himself. He said that when I want to tell them he will try his best to be ready. A part of me is stopping myself from telling them though, because of fear. They have a great relationship with my OH and telling them will just shatter everything. My OH is also in a very vulnerable state right now. He is very remorseful and I've been doing my best to support him to get help. I told him that I am unsure about our relationship long-term but that I would stay at least until the sentencing. It doesn't help that we are renting a whole place to ourselves. So moving out would be a hassle. I feel like I'm paralyzed by fear everyday. Like I want to tell my parents but I also don't.
For those of you that told your parents/ family, how did they react? And when did you tell them?