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currently struggling with life after NFA
social services have left me informally supervising, they've not put anything in place and I don't think I can carry on and I don't know if it's in little ones or anyone's best interest I feel bullied into it.
if I approach ss asking for clarity or something formal what's likely to happen, can her dad apply for c100 access? how is that likely to go.
NFA after no evidence found but ss told me the police said his online activity was worrying but not illegal. I'm unsurenif this is scare tactics. I want my child to be safe but I feel so torn and in limbo
social services have left me informally supervising, they've not put anything in place and I don't think I can carry on and I don't know if it's in little ones or anyone's best interest I feel bullied into it.
if I approach ss asking for clarity or something formal what's likely to happen, can her dad apply for c100 access? how is that likely to go.
NFA after no evidence found but ss told me the police said his online activity was worrying but not illegal. I'm unsurenif this is scare tactics. I want my child to be safe but I feel so torn and in limbo
In my experience if the dad applies for access via the court then they are likely to be granted it. The level of safeguarding attached to this depends on the risk assessment completed by the social worker.
Family court works on balance of probability rather than beyond reasonable doubt (criminal court) so a family court may well find there is evidence of him being an online risk despite it not reaching cps threshold for prosecution.
However jumping from this to him being a risk to your children is a different matter again.
Even where there are clear risks, courts will often order some level of contact, but that doesn't mean you have to supervise. A third party could do this for example - a grandparent/auntie/worker in a contact centre
Are you worried he is likely to harm your child either directly, or indirectly through them discovering I appropriate things on his computer? If this is a worry this is something to explore with a social worker and also perhaps to speak to the LFF helpline about - they are so very helpful at helping us women understand levels of risk, research, etc and they can also do risk assessments of our people (sometimes SS will find this but usually you have to privately fund)
Family court works on balance of probability rather than beyond reasonable doubt (criminal court) so a family court may well find there is evidence of him being an online risk despite it not reaching cps threshold for prosecution.
However jumping from this to him being a risk to your children is a different matter again.
Even where there are clear risks, courts will often order some level of contact, but that doesn't mean you have to supervise. A third party could do this for example - a grandparent/auntie/worker in a contact centre
Are you worried he is likely to harm your child either directly, or indirectly through them discovering I appropriate things on his computer? If this is a worry this is something to explore with a social worker and also perhaps to speak to the LFF helpline about - they are so very helpful at helping us women understand levels of risk, research, etc and they can also do risk assessments of our people (sometimes SS will find this but usually you have to privately fund)
sorry I was so vague there.
I don't feel there's a risk to our child but she's still very young so it's not something I'd like to jump into. I'd like him to work towards unsupervised access in the future. I can in the meantime supervise I just need to have a goal/end point, some kind of normal life for her.
I can't see us sustaining this long term, my mental health's taking a battering and the last thing I want is my emotions ruling how that contact is. We are very limited on people who can help.
There's currently no assessments been made, ss have never met with dad. They've never requested or contacted him and how hes dealt with everything is nothing short of avoidant. I'm happy to support him going forward to hopefully feel that he can be seen in a better light for who he is and not just what he was accused of. I don't want to even broach the subject with him until I'm clear on the process.
Currently I've drafted a letter/email outlining how I would like some clarity on what risk they feel there is andbwether they will be conducting any assessments to have more formal expectations and going forward how we can work towards unsupervised access. I've also drafted similar on his behalf . I just feel they've placed all this on me without any clear communication, call him a massive risk but they're not willing to support me at all, a year ago the worker promised to send some documents on how I can keep little one safe as she grows up, nothing ever arrived and I heard nothing from them for 8 months until the NFA call.
He was talking to a woman who was arrested, charged and convicted of possesing and sending iioc to multiple men, they found no evidence of them being sent to him. God knows he clearly has/had porn addiction, does that make him an unfit parent. He shattered my trust but does that mean he looses his rights as a father.
Thankyou so much for your reply, I really thought after making the decision to end our relationship, I'd have some closure. If anything I feel worse
I don't feel there's a risk to our child but she's still very young so it's not something I'd like to jump into. I'd like him to work towards unsupervised access in the future. I can in the meantime supervise I just need to have a goal/end point, some kind of normal life for her.
I can't see us sustaining this long term, my mental health's taking a battering and the last thing I want is my emotions ruling how that contact is. We are very limited on people who can help.
There's currently no assessments been made, ss have never met with dad. They've never requested or contacted him and how hes dealt with everything is nothing short of avoidant. I'm happy to support him going forward to hopefully feel that he can be seen in a better light for who he is and not just what he was accused of. I don't want to even broach the subject with him until I'm clear on the process.
Currently I've drafted a letter/email outlining how I would like some clarity on what risk they feel there is andbwether they will be conducting any assessments to have more formal expectations and going forward how we can work towards unsupervised access. I've also drafted similar on his behalf . I just feel they've placed all this on me without any clear communication, call him a massive risk but they're not willing to support me at all, a year ago the worker promised to send some documents on how I can keep little one safe as she grows up, nothing ever arrived and I heard nothing from them for 8 months until the NFA call.
He was talking to a woman who was arrested, charged and convicted of possesing and sending iioc to multiple men, they found no evidence of them being sent to him. God knows he clearly has/had porn addiction, does that make him an unfit parent. He shattered my trust but does that mean he looses his rights as a father.
Thankyou so much for your reply, I really thought after making the decision to end our relationship, I'd have some closure. If anything I feel worse