My husband was arrested yesterday. Knock at 9am and I was left with 4 police's officers searching the house. They were very kind, calm and unintrosive but my world has been turned upside down.
I left the house before he was released on bail and haven't been able to talk to him yet as I haven't processed what's just happened. I'm upset, numb, confused and have no idea what next!!
I'm presuming everyone feels like this? I don't know what he's actually done until I find the headspace to talk to him. So out of the blue. Hopefully I can get some answers from here.
I left the house before he was released on bail and haven't been able to talk to him yet as I haven't processed what's just happened. I'm upset, numb, confused and have no idea what next!!
I'm presuming everyone feels like this? I don't know what he's actually done until I find the headspace to talk to him. So out of the blue. Hopefully I can get some answers from here.
Be kind to yourself, and dont worry there is no time limit here, talk to him when youre ready.
When you are ready, see what he has to say.They will either deny it or part of it or accept what theyve done an admit it to you. You never really know which one you're going to get. It depends where they are in the denial stage. I really recommend doing the inform course via LFF its really informative. There is one he can do but it will cost him money so it depends if he can afford it right now but he should do it.
Youre not alone and it does get easier as time goes on. But knowing why and what helps to start this process. Im nearly a year and 3 months post knock for image offences. We are post sentence and moving toward living together once he meets all the requirements to start this process.
When you are ready, see what he has to say.They will either deny it or part of it or accept what theyve done an admit it to you. You never really know which one you're going to get. It depends where they are in the denial stage. I really recommend doing the inform course via LFF its really informative. There is one he can do but it will cost him money so it depends if he can afford it right now but he should do it.
Youre not alone and it does get easier as time goes on. But knowing why and what helps to start this process. Im nearly a year and 3 months post knock for image offences. We are post sentence and moving toward living together once he meets all the requirements to start this process.
Yes very normal reaction, sorry you find yourself here, it's like a bomb has gone off in your world. Different circumstances here, teenage son not partner, but it's definitely the biggest shock I've ever had and 4 months on still ups and downs but nothing compared to those first few weeks. It's one day and at a time, try not to overthink everything or think too far ahead, everything in your own time and one step at a time. Take lots of care x