Be kind to yourself, and dont worry there is no time limit here, talk to him when youre ready.

When you are ready, see what he has to say.They will either deny it or part of it or accept what theyve done an admit it to you. You never really know which one you're going to get. It depends where they are in the denial stage. I really recommend doing the inform course via LFF its really informative. There is one he can do but it will cost him money so it depends if he can afford it right now but he should do it.

Youre not alone and it does get easier as time goes on. But knowing why and what helps to start this process. Im nearly a year and 3 months post knock for image offences. We are post sentence and moving toward living together once he meets all the requirements to start this process.

Oh I really feel for you. It's such a horrible shock and it will take a long time to process. Take it one day at a time because that's the only way ????. Hopefully your husband can be honest with you and you can try to get some understanding and know what's going to happen next. It's likely that it may take a good few months before he is charged (I had no idea - we waited 9 months after the knock) and then even more months before court dates etc. Make sure you find a trusted friend or family member to offload to. Take care x

Yes very normal reaction, sorry you find yourself here, it's like a bomb has gone off in your world. Different circumstances here, teenage son not partner, but it's definitely the biggest shock I've ever had and 4 months on still ups and downs but nothing compared to those first few weeks. It's one day and at a time, try not to overthink everything or think too far ahead, everything in your own time and one step at a time. Take lots of care x

It is definitely the same as a grief response, you go through all the phases of it, not just for the person you thought you knew but the life you had together/ as a family, and all that they've will lose in the future by way of freedom. So many unknowns at the beginning and ongoing uncertainty and fear, and I found it helpful to try and get a sense of understanding as to why. There are lots of different media articles on here, many from the guardian, and research shared by Lucy Faithful and others that explain some of the reasons why men and youngsters are ending up here. Takes a few weeks to process so glad you're taking some time off and have your daughter for support as it's a lonely, shameful place to find ourselves. Take lots of care x

So sorry you are here - completely understand how you are feeling. My OH had a knock from a group back in September, the same had police, and dogs searching the house. Thankfully my little girl was at school but I requested they didn't tip her bedroom upside down like they did everywhere else. We are still no further hoping something comes of it this month but the likely for bail to be extended again sadly - just want answers and an idea of what mine, and my little girls future is going to look like - getting my head into a space finally where the likelyhood of us having to move and start a new life is very likely which makes me feel sad. My OH is grafter worked in farming his whole life, a well paid job self employed the perfect family network apart from losing his Dad at a young age but brilliant friends through work. Just did not expect this, the future we had planned - the holidays - the house renovation it's just all a blurr now and it's all been taken from me and my girl

The 'answers' part is very hard. You may get 'answers' from him, which may be untrue or half-true. The wait for actual answers is very long I'm afraid. Forensics in IIOC cases often takes a year and sometimes longer. And you have no rights regarding the forensics report, if that makes sense. He can give you disclosure with the police and his solicitor, if he gets one. That's how I found out the contents of the forensics report when it came ????. Then its court for full answers. Its a brutal process for partners / ex-partners.