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Hello everyone, I haven't been active on here for a while but my ex (my sons father) has just been given his sentence. He pleaded guilty to all charges (possessing and making online images varying from Cat C to Cat A) he has been given a sexual harm prevention order and will be on the register for 10 years. He was sentenced to 12 months imprisonment suspended for 24 months. We had the knock back in June last year and since then the only contact I have allowed between my son and his dad has been letters. My exs behaviour since being arrested has not been helpful at all, he lacks remorse and understanding for what he's done and the consequences that has had on the family. I have been really struggling with making a decision regarding further contact. I want to do what is in my son's best interest and I believe at this point in time that's not to have any contact with him I can't trust what will be said (he had one face time call with him before and it did not go well) and my son is very vulnerable at the moment. I think until he is old enough to understand what happened it's better to keep things the way they are. I guess I'm just wondering what happens now and if anyone has been in the same position ? I know he could potentially take me to court to have contact with him but this is unlikely. I'm just wondering if I will have support from social services on this decision or if I'm going to have to fight it. I just want this all to be over, I'm exhausted and just want to protect my son. Sorry for the long post and thank you for reading.
My daughters dad has been charged with sexual communication with a child.
i belived he was not mentally stable to be in her life and she's happg not seeing him
i stopped all contact she's 6 and it wouldn't be fair on her.
It's been about 10 months no contact and he's taken me to court, I don't know what the outcome will be but happy to update l.
cafcas are interviewing me her dad and my daughter
social services always told me to seek legal advice and weren't very supportive
i belived he was not mentally stable to be in her life and she's happg not seeing him
i stopped all contact she's 6 and it wouldn't be fair on her.
It's been about 10 months no contact and he's taken me to court, I don't know what the outcome will be but happy to update l.
cafcas are interviewing me her dad and my daughter
social services always told me to seek legal advice and weren't very supportive
It sounds like you made the right decision for your child, any update would be much appreciated if you have the time as I have a feeling that's where my situation will end up too. I have spoken to social services and they also weren't that helpful and have told me to seek legal advice from corum. I am yet to tell my sons father this is the decision I have made as we have not had contact due to his behaviour and replies I was getting from him. I'm hoping to have some contact with his probation officer so they can help liaise.
I stopped contact for numerous reasons, Children’s services useless when it came to court. CAFCASS agreed with supervised but tried to make me continue doing contact (for my own mental health I stopped doing the contact). I was interviewed, my parenting questioned even though I've never had any involvement for years - I ended relationship soon as the knock, we're now divorced etc.
I refused to carry on doing contact, represented myself as couldn't afford solicitor - I think was my first mistake. Since been told due to safeguarding (father is on the reguster) I should have been given legal aid , but can't find anyone to take my case on.
Why should I contuinally have to be with a person who shows no remorse/interest in changing or even recognising the fact I myself have trauma from all of this!
feel free to message me as don't want to post too much publically x
I refused to carry on doing contact, represented myself as couldn't afford solicitor - I think was my first mistake. Since been told due to safeguarding (father is on the reguster) I should have been given legal aid , but can't find anyone to take my case on.
Why should I contuinally have to be with a person who shows no remorse/interest in changing or even recognising the fact I myself have trauma from all of this!
feel free to message me as don't want to post too much publically x
