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You will be in shock, Suede, and your thoughts will be all over the place, or maybe you are in a daze state. I was a mixture of the two for a few weeks, with very heightened emotions. It will get easier, but this is like the shock and high emotion when someone we love dies unexpectedly.

Keep posting here. You are amongst people who have been where you are.

The helpline will be supportive if you call them too.

Be kind to yourself....

This was me 8 months ago. You will be on a rollercoaster of emotions take one day at a time and be kind to yourself. It's certainly is a long process.

Have you rang the helpline yet they were of great support to me and still are. It's a call you never planned of having to make but can assure you the are very supportive.

Hey Suede,

sorry you find yourself here.

I also experienced a huge shock and now - almost 3 months later - finally got counseling and learned it would be very beneficial to receive trauma counseling asap so some things don t manifest. As free counseling seems to be hard to get I would advice looking for a paid one, even frew sessions could help. I signed up on an app called betterhelp and it s been usefull for me, costs around 200 pounds a month but considering the loss of salary and solicitor costs this is nothing really...



I send you my best wishes

So sorry to hear you've had this nightmare too, we found ourselves in the same position at the end of Jan this year. PM if you want to, it is the most isolating thing i've ever known but people on this forum know what you're going through x

Hi Suede,

I'm so sorry. You're around people that understand, sadly x

Yes, the guilt is huge. All the emotions, guilt, shame, sadness. It's so incredibly difficult. Are you able to call the helpline?

I'm glad that the helpline helped a little. Keep talking to us here x

Hi Suede, what advice are you looking for? Something to do with the phone, yes?

Hi Suede, my son got a new phone and contacted his mobile network and said he had lost his sim. The Oic said he could do this and he has no internet restrictions.

Yes I think he can do this. My person was told he could but as he has a non-internet phone now which is only 2G , and the sim he had was 4G, it is not compatible.

I'm so sorry you find yourself here as well. It really is a huge shock in the beginning and a grieving process. You go through all the emotions, and it's so difficult. It's still hard but gets easier as th shock settles. One day at a time, be kind to yourself and know you're not alone. We're all feeling similar. There are some good news articles and research links that I've found useful to help me understand what could lead my son down this path. Feel free to DM me and I can share links, or you can find links in other posts on here.

Re the phone, on the advice of the police my son got a new sim (told phone provider he'd list his phone) and we kept his old number so didn't lose touch with friends etc.



Take lots of care x