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Hi, new user here. I'm so grateful that this site exists as the last 5 weeks have been a living nightmare and no end in sight.
My ex partner and father of my child was arrested end of January for online sexual communication, following the activities of a hunter group.
They broadcast the sting and 'interview' on social media. I had no clue or warning. Everybody where I live has seen it. Police & council safeguarding team have been useless, I had to tell them about the existence of the video after it went viral. We are dealing with this totally without support.
I've been advised to change my daughters surname to remove association to her father before she starts high school this year. What should be a happy transition to high school will now be horrendous as all the high school kids have seen/shared the video.
My daughter knows why he was arrested. She is devastated. School are kind of supporting but out of their depth. I need help to explain to her that people do know - without it traumatising her so much she won't leave the house.
How do I equip her to build some armour around herself for when people inevitably make comments, jokes or ask questions. Or worse, someone shows her the video of her dad being arrested.
He has ruined her life. I hate him. I've been signed off work for stress and we are dealing with impacts hour by hour, one day at a time.
My ex partner and father of my child was arrested end of January for online sexual communication, following the activities of a hunter group.
They broadcast the sting and 'interview' on social media. I had no clue or warning. Everybody where I live has seen it. Police & council safeguarding team have been useless, I had to tell them about the existence of the video after it went viral. We are dealing with this totally without support.
I've been advised to change my daughters surname to remove association to her father before she starts high school this year. What should be a happy transition to high school will now be horrendous as all the high school kids have seen/shared the video.
My daughter knows why he was arrested. She is devastated. School are kind of supporting but out of their depth. I need help to explain to her that people do know - without it traumatising her so much she won't leave the house.
How do I equip her to build some armour around herself for when people inevitably make comments, jokes or ask questions. Or worse, someone shows her the video of her dad being arrested.
He has ruined her life. I hate him. I've been signed off work for stress and we are dealing with impacts hour by hour, one day at a time.
I'm so sorry, how awful for you all. I have no advise unfortunately as my situation is very different but wanted you to know I'd read and am sending virtual support. Have you rang the helpline at all?
So sorry you find yourself here in this horrendous situation. Different circumstances for me too but I've found this forum so helpful to understand it more. There are resources available under the first forum topic (LFF resources) specifically for helping young family members. It's very difficult and no easy answers but there is support available to help.
Hello MamaBear
I am so sorry that you find yourself here.
I am wondering if either of these charities may be able to help you at all:-
Family Lives
YoungMinds
Both of these have helplines that you can contact and if they are unable to help they will probably be able to signpost you to other services/charities.
Thinking of you x
I am so sorry that you find yourself here.
I am wondering if either of these charities may be able to help you at all:-
Family Lives
YoungMinds
Both of these have helplines that you can contact and if they are unable to help they will probably be able to signpost you to other services/charities.
Thinking of you x