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I'm starting to just give up. It's been 1 year since we had the knock and investigation is still pending. Waiting for forensics.
I am by myself 1 h from family. I have four children (all very young. Oldest is 6). I'm not allowed to supervise so visit is very limited. I'm close to giving up. I'm so tired. Like so so tired and I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. ????????????????
I am by myself 1 h from family. I have four children (all very young. Oldest is 6). I'm not allowed to supervise so visit is very limited. I'm close to giving up. I'm so tired. Like so so tired and I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. ????????????????
Hold on there and don't give up. Can someone give you a break? Call the helpline and see if they can help?
Not really - there's 3 people to supervise but they come to my house so I don't really get time off. And none of them are much of an emotional support for me.
im not sure what support a support line can give. Unless they are going to send round a cleaner, a child minder, and some money lol
im not sure what support a support line can give. Unless they are going to send round a cleaner, a child minder, and some money lol
Ha doubt they can help with all that no, but maybe give some advice on what else might help, emotional support etc. Sounds like you need a break and they might be able to advise other services that can help.
Can you maybe refer to Social Services for some help at all. Some support in your local area. Not sure of your circumstances but are you managing to get out the house much? Local mother and children groups perhaps. They are usually quite cheap and it can give you a sort of break. Do the kids qualify for any free childcare so you can at least get some time to yourself.
I really do feel you, the minute I sit down after bed I sit here thinking of ways to get out of this, and SS aren't supportive in any way they are adding to the stress.
I'm so sorry you are feeling like giving up. It feels so big and overwhelming and like you are trying to hold so many strands alone. Can you ask for more help? We got the knock in 2021, it's only 5 years down the line and life feels considerably lighter, my children are healthy and happy and so am I. Sending love and understanding, it feels so lonely when you are right in it but it won't feel like this forever. x
@mavis I home educate the children so childcare isn't as easy as it sounds. Two go to a childminder a day a week but I'm never child free.
My family aren't very supportive in general (I'm basically the black sheep) or have thier own things going on so they supervise but aren't an emotional support for me.
My family aren't very supportive in general (I'm basically the black sheep) or have thier own things going on so they supervise but aren't an emotional support for me.
But we do get out a lot, with home ed'ing. I just tend to keep myself to myself as I don't want anyone knowing what's going on.
@len 5 years seems like a longtime. Was that from start to finish?
asking for more help from family isn't really possible unfortunately and I've asked SS for help but because we aren't an active open case they don't do anything. In fact she seemed surprised it was still going on. And told me to contact the police.
asking for more help from family isn't really possible unfortunately and I've asked SS for help but because we aren't an active open case they don't do anything. In fact she seemed surprised it was still going on. And told me to contact the police.
Would a chat with your GP maybe be of use?
Please keep going, having read so many of people's post on this forum, things can and do get better, you are not alone and I'm glad you were able to share your feelings and then see that you are supported here. Good luck, sending you all my best wishes x
Aw goodness I see what you mean if you homeschool, you will never get a break and I'm sorry you are going through this. It is really hard and as you say hard to speak to people as you never want to say too much. Just try and take care of yourself as much as you can
