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SS have hit me to the ground so much I just can't see forwards..
6 months on from my daughter being on a CPP and they are now threatening to contact her biological father who hasn't been around for the last 6.5 years and pays barely any child maintance. It's going to cause so much more stress for me. I was promised an assessment to see if i could safeguard my own child which is absolutely ridiculous, and like the same old excuse as always due to unseen circumstances they just can't do anything at the moment so i can't even complete that. They are basically telling me to move out of the home which my OH is not staying in and go move in with someone until i get a house offered to me. My little girl is thriving at the moment, and they are doing anything possible to destroy her little life that i'm trying to keep normal as possible. Our conference meetings always come across so posititive but then behind closed doors with S W they might aswell just kick me in the stomach as hard as they can because that's what I feel like has happened today. I have ended the relationship with my OH just as I just can't see a way forward anymore. I have emailed the chair of the conference this evening as for someone like myself suffering mentally it's got to a point where I just don't actually know what to do anymore. I'm laid in bed after crying for hours on end just typing this
6 months on from my daughter being on a CPP and they are now threatening to contact her biological father who hasn't been around for the last 6.5 years and pays barely any child maintance. It's going to cause so much more stress for me. I was promised an assessment to see if i could safeguard my own child which is absolutely ridiculous, and like the same old excuse as always due to unseen circumstances they just can't do anything at the moment so i can't even complete that. They are basically telling me to move out of the home which my OH is not staying in and go move in with someone until i get a house offered to me. My little girl is thriving at the moment, and they are doing anything possible to destroy her little life that i'm trying to keep normal as possible. Our conference meetings always come across so posititive but then behind closed doors with S W they might aswell just kick me in the stomach as hard as they can because that's what I feel like has happened today. I have ended the relationship with my OH just as I just can't see a way forward anymore. I have emailed the chair of the conference this evening as for someone like myself suffering mentally it's got to a point where I just don't actually know what to do anymore. I'm laid in bed after crying for hours on end just typing this
I'm so sorry you're feeling so low and alone. Sounds really difficult and very stressful. Nothing hurts us more than the thought of our children suffering in all this. I have no knowledge of these processes to offer any advice but maybe LFF may be able to offer some guidance or support? Or there may be other charities that can help, from previous work I know there are some charities that offer advocacy and support to families involved with social services, barnardos maybe? Sending a hug and supoort. One day at a time x
Thank you - I feel like I'm at breaking point and I just don't know where to turn.
Their behaviour is appalling. I'm just a Mum trying to navigate our life and our future which is so unknown, and because I'm not willing to move out of our current which I may add OH isn't living at she's threatening me further. She may as well just push me off a cliff - making out like I'm not safeguarding my daughter but refusing to allow me to do this assessment for me which I was promised 7 weeks ago to start and now I'm being ignored when trying to chase it.
Their behaviour is appalling. I'm just a Mum trying to navigate our life and our future which is so unknown, and because I'm not willing to move out of our current which I may add OH isn't living at she's threatening me further. She may as well just push me off a cliff - making out like I'm not safeguarding my daughter but refusing to allow me to do this assessment for me which I was promised 7 weeks ago to start and now I'm being ignored when trying to chase it.
Yes nsm, it is appalling and cruel, and i send warm thoughts your way. Is there any chance you could get a family lawyer on legal aid, to advise you?
You can request a new SS worker. My old SS worker, I didnt really have an issue with as such. But she wasnt experienced and I got essentially interrogated every meeting. Which was not good for my mental health at all.
We are post sentence and despite no restrictions for living togethet legally. I still have to wait for SS to approve for us to live together. Which is why he had an assessment via LFF to see whether or not their concerns he will rape our daughter are actual likely concerns (and the reason we are on a CPP)or projected concerns based on his actions. Once the report is sent to SS they hopefully can make their decision.
We are post sentence and despite no restrictions for living togethet legally. I still have to wait for SS to approve for us to live together. Which is why he had an assessment via LFF to see whether or not their concerns he will rape our daughter are actual likely concerns (and the reason we are on a CPP)or projected concerns based on his actions. Once the report is sent to SS they hopefully can make their decision.
Please can I ask what assessment you did through LFF as I've looked and the ones I think that should be done are over £1,250.
Do I speak to the manager about requesting a new social worker? It's getting the point my little girl doesn't like her because she sees everytime Mummy gets upset.
She upset me that much on Friday to the point where I broke down but then expected me to pick up my little girl from school.
I mean what's the likely hood of contacting the bioligical dad who has been absent for 6.5 years - I just can't see how it's going to be benificial to my little girl.
Like ' Oh you are going to lose your Daddy you've grown up with but here's the Daddy that failed you when you was a baby'
I've emailed concerns to the lady who chairs the conference meetings so all I can do is wait to see she emails me back tomorrow.
My Auntie has kindly offered for us to go live there but I want to know that they will back off and if I cut contact as if they aren't going to take her off a CPP it's pointless doing the move and I may as well stay where I am until I am until I am offered a house.
Do I speak to the manager about requesting a new social worker? It's getting the point my little girl doesn't like her because she sees everytime Mummy gets upset.
She upset me that much on Friday to the point where I broke down but then expected me to pick up my little girl from school.
I mean what's the likely hood of contacting the bioligical dad who has been absent for 6.5 years - I just can't see how it's going to be benificial to my little girl.
Like ' Oh you are going to lose your Daddy you've grown up with but here's the Daddy that failed you when you was a baby'
I've emailed concerns to the lady who chairs the conference meetings so all I can do is wait to see she emails me back tomorrow.
My Auntie has kindly offered for us to go live there but I want to know that they will back off and if I cut contact as if they aren't going to take her off a CPP it's pointless doing the move and I may as well stay where I am until I am until I am offered a house.
So I ended up raising issues with the chair who holds the conferences, a couple of things were acknowledged and were sorted but other things weren't responded too and now my daughters SW is on long term sick leave - surprise surprise.
The SW that also disappeared who was suppose to be doing my assessment 10 weeks ago reappeared after all this time, the day my email was replied too, and this SW had also been on sick for a long time. Is it normal for SW to use sickness as an excuse?
The SW that also disappeared who was suppose to be doing my assessment 10 weeks ago reappeared after all this time, the day my email was replied too, and this SW had also been on sick for a long time. Is it normal for SW to use sickness as an excuse?
Hey sorry I didnt reply. Erm without the report (still waiting for SS to work out where it is). But all I requested what a forensic phycologist report on my husband via someone like LFF to assess his risk. Beyond that I said nothing. It then went to a board and they agreed funding. I had a protective parenting assessment at the same time as his assessment to assess risk.
We havent had a CPP core group meeting in ooooh well it would have been 8 weeks middle of march and still not had one because theyre awaiting this report because every single core group meeting so far has been. Err well nothing to report, no concerns. Waiting for this report bye. Completely pointless meetings. The one in march was csncled because my SS was sick. No one informed us and what annoyed me more is it was on our annual leave day. We could have gone and done something really nice. But by the time we realised it wasnt happening it was too late in the day for my daughter who id paid £89 for childcare that day as i dont like her being involved in these meetings.
We havent had a CPP core group meeting in ooooh well it would have been 8 weeks middle of march and still not had one because theyre awaiting this report because every single core group meeting so far has been. Err well nothing to report, no concerns. Waiting for this report bye. Completely pointless meetings. The one in march was csncled because my SS was sick. No one informed us and what annoyed me more is it was on our annual leave day. We could have gone and done something really nice. But by the time we realised it wasnt happening it was too late in the day for my daughter who id paid £89 for childcare that day as i dont like her being involved in these meetings.
See both core meetings I've had, she has just thrown threats at me. There has been no concerns, to the point where she has contacted the police to say he has been sleeping on the sofa every night which is an absolute lie. The only way I get responses is if I cantact the chair lady of the conference she seems to be on it but like i say the sw has gone on sick long term but I've got to a point where i don't believe a word that comes out of their mouth.
That has happened to me on several attempts there has been meetings booked in where i have been told to prioritise them so taken time off work then they haven't gone ahead.
But I am keeping note of everything to cover my back.
That has happened to me on several attempts there has been meetings booked in where i have been told to prioritise them so taken time off work then they haven't gone ahead.
But I am keeping note of everything to cover my back.
How was your protective assessment? I had my first session on Tuesday which was the family tree. I'm scared of breaking down because my past in terms of family is very difficult to talk about.
