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Recently, where we live, there have been lots of protests outside convicted offenders homes. There was also one of their partner as they were supporting them.
This all brought back fears that I’ve pushed to the back of my mind for over two years.
We have still never heard from the police following the first knock. I am not supporting him. However, I do take my child for weekly visits.
I have worries if there is a conviction, will the visits cause backlash, even if I stop them after conviction. It is an agreement in place with social services however, people who protest don’t know the full story and why things are done. They will just see me taking a child to see a convicted offenders
I know these are all what ifs just now but it does concern me.
This all brought back fears that I’ve pushed to the back of my mind for over two years.
We have still never heard from the police following the first knock. I am not supporting him. However, I do take my child for weekly visits.
I have worries if there is a conviction, will the visits cause backlash, even if I stop them after conviction. It is an agreement in place with social services however, people who protest don’t know the full story and why things are done. They will just see me taking a child to see a convicted offenders
I know these are all what ifs just now but it does concern me.
2 years seems a very long time have you got a police contact you can ask why it's taken so long ?
I'm presuming he lives in the same area. Could he move further away, still close enough for visits but not directly in your area?
I'm in a similar situation, although he comes to the house (and then stays inside, he doesn't even go out into the garden). It is a worry
I'm in a similar situation, although he comes to the house (and then stays inside, he doesn't even go out into the garden). It is a worry
He's been advised not to chase. Also told they may never NFA him in case anything was to happen in the future.
He has moved to another town and has never been back to the house since the day he left.
He has moved to another town and has never been back to the house since the day he left.
Oh wow 2 years! We are 1 year in, and still haven't heard anything. Can I ask why they've asked you not to chase?
It is completely understandable to feel overwhelmed when you're navigating something this complex. One of the most helpful things you can do right now is to focus on setting clear boundaries while still keeping the lines of communication open, as long as it feels safe for you to do so. Often, just having a consistent, non-judgmental space to talk can make a huge difference in how someone processes their situation. If you’re looking for more direct guidance, reaching out to a support coordinator or a specialized helpline can provide you with a structured plan and some peace of mind.
Take it one day at a time, and don't forget to prioritize your own well-being through all of this. You're doing a great job just by being there and looking for ways to help.
Take it one day at a time, and don't forget to prioritize your own well-being through all of this. You're doing a great job just by being there and looking for ways to help.
Sadmum1. The solicitor seemingly just said best not to chase. I think it was like don't rock the boat. Stop it now said that was the right advice too. No real explanation though.
