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We had the knock in April 2023, I fell pregnant in November 2023 (only had his word by then) in Feb 2024 the allocated social worker at the time.finally sat me down and was honest with some of the things that was found and I realised after almost 10 years of 'knowing this person' maybe i didnt really know him. In July 2024 our son was born and in Feb 2025 his case was heard in court. No jail time, 10 month suspended for 2 years, fine, SHPO etc.
He was granted supervised contact time with our son who is now almost 2.
Im due to meet with the sw about family time miving forward and what I want etc. Judge has said i can not remove his contact as another judge already granted he is to see him unless he does something severe. I have no idea what to say!
Im with a borough that has scrutinised everything I have said, i was last in contact in December 2024, when it was reported that I was acting like it was social time, juice, minced pies wtc. I argued that it was the last one before Christmas, our son was barely 6 months old and often slept thriugh the session. I attended another in feb 2026 to prepare for taking over contact and it moving into the public, cafes parks etc. Again I was scrutinised for how I engaged with him and now have to answer why I said what I said and if it wasnt ment how it was taken by staff then how was it ment.
He threw a soft ball which hit our on son in th3 head, I made the comment of something along the lines of all the places to hit him with a ball was here, they were banging on tables and I spoke to my son about it being loud it was reported that my son the. Stopped banging, he didnt stop he then was still hitting the table but quietly thus my teaching him loud and quiet.
We have had numerous meetings with professionals scaling him high risk towards our son, the community etc. We were taken to court in September 2025 and a judge granted a 6 month guardianship order which was due to end March 2026. I. Feb 2026 i done a contact review with the sw where i was advised that once the order expires myself and my mum would be taking over the management of contact. I argued that just because the date changes does t make him less of a risk and they have refused to allow me to attend sessions but now they want me to lead them. It was decided that rhe 2 sessions in April would be at another centre where He would pay for a room.so that I would have security in knowing staff are on the other side of a door. I requested a form template so that whomever was supervising contact could keep records should SS ever want to aee them, I said id still be confiscating devices before the session starts.in addition I would also bot revel the location. For the session until late evening before or the morning off to prevent any tampering (I hate how they have made me think)
they day before I flew out abroad for my 40th birthday the sw called to advise management had decided to take it back to court to extend the order. As I was abroad they refused to send paperwork electronically by post etc. I received it the monday after I returned giving me less than 3 weeks to secure a solicitor as legal aid did not automatically apply. Im getting off topic now, Apologies im so angry at the whole process.
I just want some advice on how to support fanily time as they refer to it contavt time to me. My mum has supervised since December 2024 as I refused to allow my son to be left with their staff which is a whole other story.
I want to get it away from centres for the sake of my mum who dies not like the centre the rooms are cold, staff are borderline rude and unprofessional and spend most of their time on laptop or their phone regardless if work related they have no clue whats going on right in front of them and I have had incidents which ive taken further.
Are you supervising ? How do you do it safely for all.
The judge said about a communication app for both us as parents which we had not been made aware of, things like this I feel should be automatically said from the Local authority via the sw.
Any tips advice for family time much appreciated.
We had the knock in April 2023, I fell pregnant in November 2023 (only had his word by then) in Feb 2024 the allocated social worker at the time.finally sat me down and was honest with some of the things that was found and I realised after almost 10 years of 'knowing this person' maybe i didnt really know him. In July 2024 our son was born and in Feb 2025 his case was heard in court. No jail time, 10 month suspended for 2 years, fine, SHPO etc.
He was granted supervised contact time with our son who is now almost 2.
Im due to meet with the sw about family time miving forward and what I want etc. Judge has said i can not remove his contact as another judge already granted he is to see him unless he does something severe. I have no idea what to say!
Im with a borough that has scrutinised everything I have said, i was last in contact in December 2024, when it was reported that I was acting like it was social time, juice, minced pies wtc. I argued that it was the last one before Christmas, our son was barely 6 months old and often slept thriugh the session. I attended another in feb 2026 to prepare for taking over contact and it moving into the public, cafes parks etc. Again I was scrutinised for how I engaged with him and now have to answer why I said what I said and if it wasnt ment how it was taken by staff then how was it ment.
He threw a soft ball which hit our on son in th3 head, I made the comment of something along the lines of all the places to hit him with a ball was here, they were banging on tables and I spoke to my son about it being loud it was reported that my son the. Stopped banging, he didnt stop he then was still hitting the table but quietly thus my teaching him loud and quiet.
We have had numerous meetings with professionals scaling him high risk towards our son, the community etc. We were taken to court in September 2025 and a judge granted a 6 month guardianship order which was due to end March 2026. I. Feb 2026 i done a contact review with the sw where i was advised that once the order expires myself and my mum would be taking over the management of contact. I argued that just because the date changes does t make him less of a risk and they have refused to allow me to attend sessions but now they want me to lead them. It was decided that rhe 2 sessions in April would be at another centre where He would pay for a room.so that I would have security in knowing staff are on the other side of a door. I requested a form template so that whomever was supervising contact could keep records should SS ever want to aee them, I said id still be confiscating devices before the session starts.in addition I would also bot revel the location. For the session until late evening before or the morning off to prevent any tampering (I hate how they have made me think)
they day before I flew out abroad for my 40th birthday the sw called to advise management had decided to take it back to court to extend the order. As I was abroad they refused to send paperwork electronically by post etc. I received it the monday after I returned giving me less than 3 weeks to secure a solicitor as legal aid did not automatically apply. Im getting off topic now, Apologies im so angry at the whole process.
I just want some advice on how to support fanily time as they refer to it contavt time to me. My mum has supervised since December 2024 as I refused to allow my son to be left with their staff which is a whole other story.
I want to get it away from centres for the sake of my mum who dies not like the centre the rooms are cold, staff are borderline rude and unprofessional and spend most of their time on laptop or their phone regardless if work related they have no clue whats going on right in front of them and I have had incidents which ive taken further.
Are you supervising ? How do you do it safely for all.
The judge said about a communication app for both us as parents which we had not been made aware of, things like this I feel should be automatically said from the Local authority via the sw.
Any tips advice for family time much appreciated.
