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Hope everyone is doing okay today.
Hopefully coming to the end of this soon, the legal side of this that is. Two whole years... but now comes the dread and worry about sentencing and the media. We have a two year old so preparing for social services to return again with all the awful questions and judgement about staying, not caring about his severe mental health side of things.
'Prepare for all outcomes' was what the magistrates said as they sent it to crown and requested a PSR. Trying to keep my head above water as sentencing is creeping up, doing the best I can to keep my OH from spiralling.
I'm struggling with the fact I can't control what's coming... it's inevitable and just trying to take each day as it comes, making memories incase it's a bad outcome.
Ive stayed with my OH. He's not a bad person, and I can see how much he's hurting. He's getting lots of support now and engaging with services which is one of the reasons why I've stayed to support him. We've got so use to the new normal that I'm afraid of what will happen next in terms of restrictions with the SHPO and the restrictions from social services. I just keep telling myself that although it will be hard and things will change again, it won't be forever.
Hopefully coming to the end of this soon, the legal side of this that is. Two whole years... but now comes the dread and worry about sentencing and the media. We have a two year old so preparing for social services to return again with all the awful questions and judgement about staying, not caring about his severe mental health side of things.
'Prepare for all outcomes' was what the magistrates said as they sent it to crown and requested a PSR. Trying to keep my head above water as sentencing is creeping up, doing the best I can to keep my OH from spiralling.
I'm struggling with the fact I can't control what's coming... it's inevitable and just trying to take each day as it comes, making memories incase it's a bad outcome.
Ive stayed with my OH. He's not a bad person, and I can see how much he's hurting. He's getting lots of support now and engaging with services which is one of the reasons why I've stayed to support him. We've got so use to the new normal that I'm afraid of what will happen next in terms of restrictions with the SHPO and the restrictions from social services. I just keep telling myself that although it will be hard and things will change again, it won't be forever.
Hi Fearful
We're on similar timelines. Awaiting sentencing at Crown. Like you, I'm terrified of media fallout whether that be social media or the press. We've kept this private as far as was possible so I'm terrified that following sentencing, family, friends and neighbours will all find out. Then will we be social pariahs? OH for having committed the crimes and me for having stuck by him?
He's got his meeting with probation coming up so hoping that will assess him as low risk. I think he is but that's only my opinion. Like you, I'm hoping for reasonable restrictions on the SHPO and we want to talk about these with the solicitor so that they following case law in not slamming contact restrictions on him.
In a few weeks' times, this stressful bit will be behind us as we face the new normal.
Take care x
We're on similar timelines. Awaiting sentencing at Crown. Like you, I'm terrified of media fallout whether that be social media or the press. We've kept this private as far as was possible so I'm terrified that following sentencing, family, friends and neighbours will all find out. Then will we be social pariahs? OH for having committed the crimes and me for having stuck by him?
He's got his meeting with probation coming up so hoping that will assess him as low risk. I think he is but that's only my opinion. Like you, I'm hoping for reasonable restrictions on the SHPO and we want to talk about these with the solicitor so that they following case law in not slamming contact restrictions on him.
In a few weeks' times, this stressful bit will be behind us as we face the new normal.
Take care x
I'm so sorry for you both. I'm almost a year in and my OH is still wanting for sentancing. It's torture. The not being able to control things. I feel for you both. I really hope you get a good outcome x
hi guys like you I had to wait 2 1/2 years for my OH to come to court it was very stressful and just before Christmas the police called him in and told him exactly what he was being charged with and that he had to appear in court last February after he appeared at magistrates court he was then sentenced to Crown Court. He was due to be seen at 11 o'clock in the morning. The reality of it was he actually went into court at 3 o'clock in the afternoon. it was awful having to sit around in the court for all that time and then when he was cooled in having to hear what he had done the messages he had sent it was horrific as he hadn't been open and truthful with me. he was then given three years suspended sentence and 150 hours unpaid Work I was quite lucky I think maybe because of it was on a Friday and because of the time of day he was in court they weren't any press about, but I too like you ladies was absolutely dreading the fallout from him going to court and appearing in the papers. but what I'm trying to say is please be optimistic there may not be the press there keeping my fingers crossed for you all xx
